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[–] 2331889? [S] 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

The other thing is that there are unanticipated consequences when you give advice. I'm a car enthusiast and if someone is asking me for advice on what car to buy, I hesitate because one never knows if the one I suggest will be a lemon, or be fatal to them in an accident, so rather than making a specific recommendation, I just point them to credible sources for information so they can make their own decisions, e.g. consumer reports for vehicle reliability ratings.

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[–] LemonRose 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

Good point. I suppose it really depends who you're talking to. I have some friends I wouldn't mind giving ideas or suggestions to, because I know they'll research and make their own decision anyway. And then I know other people who are too quick to take anyone's advice as gospel. Those folks I'm more likely to refer to a place where they can do the research, like you said. If it's someone you don't know, definitely better to err on the side of caution!

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[–] 2332096? [S] 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

The Dunning Kruger effect would say that those who are least knowledgeable are the most likely to give advice, and the most well informed may err on the side of not giving valuable advice because they realize the limitations of their own knowledge. Ironic huh? The less you know, the more likely you give advice.

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[–] 2331825? [S] 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

For many people, once they start going down the wrong path, cognitive dissonance prevents them from realizing their mistake and they just double-down on their resolve to do it "their way". Many family members tried to convince her to seek medical treatment, but that only stiffened her resolve, and made her last year of life uncomfortable. I don't know if the family backed off she would have come to her senses in time. Pancreatic cancer is usually fatal, and it could be that no treatment would have saved her, and the discomfort of treatment would be not worth it to her. It was her decision and she resented family not being supportive of her, to the bitter end, but she did not want to die. She continued to believe, even as the cancer was literally protruding from her abdomen (it was so large it broke through her skin).