[–] Blackrose ago (edited ago)
What draws you to a man sexually? To be honest make me laugh, if there is no social constraints ( girlfriends, boyfriends, no visible issues) it tends to go down pretty quickly.
I don't go for bad guys at all - those that do find themselves in a loosing situation or try and change a bad boy to being a good boy. That never works BTW - it's as useful as trying to make a bad girl not be a bad girl where's the incentive? Rank order? Nah. Just elements you like. Yes women are pickier - because the down side is harder because there is less resources. Jobs credible ones are hard to come by. Men earn more.
[–] billie-jean ago
For me, attraction is primal. I know if I'm attracted to man (regardless of how good-looking or what kind of status he has) within the first ten seconds of seeing him. Maybe it has to do with confidence and charisma, probably so. Everything else comes second. If I'm not attracted on a primal level, I could not give a single care about your money, status, etc.
As I get older, I am much less open-minded about who I date. When I was 18 I totally fell for the bad-boy thing, but now that I have lived a little longer I wouldn't give those types the time of day. I'll admit that a little edge is still a turn-on, but I guess I just know better now.
Honestly, I've been with men with large penises, and men with small. I prefer something in the middle, but this is by no means a deal-breaker. My current boyfriend is on the smaller side, but he knows how to make me feel better than anyone else has before.
If I had to rank importance of qualities in a potential mate it would probably be: physical attraction, emotional compatibility, shared values/beliefs, ability to provide support (money, job, work ethic, etc.).
Are women pickier? I don't know, I think it varies from woman to woman. I know women who are so picky they haven't been with a man in years (despite being "good catches"), and women who are ready to pounce on anything with a Y chromosome. I think that has something to do with these women's values and how they grew up.
[–] PM-me-about-Autism [S] ago
I presume that if it were possible, women would all choose the same man. The only man they could never find themselves resisting.
I will never be that man. But I must try.
[–] billie-jean ago
Oh, I don't think that's true. Would all men choose the same woman?
The man attached. No matter the size or status you must first be attracted to the man and usually that starts with his confidence and personality. Someone who is confident and enjoyable to be around is so much more attractive than someone who is just good looking or has a high social status.
Now if you find someone that is confident, personable and happens to be handsome with a good job/work ethic and appropriately sized for your pleasure then it sounds like you may have hit the jackpot.
[–] PM-me-about-Autism [S] ago
Does politics have a big impact on personality compatability?
Not for me. I can have a completely different political view as my partner. I can still respect and admire someone with different opinions as mine. what I don't like is someone who tries to force their opinions and beliefs on me. I enjoy honest discussions and debates about various topics but don't need to pressure someone to believe what I do and do not want to be pressured in return. This doesn't mean I may not change my mind about politics but I like to think I do so based on my own beliefs opinions and conclusions.
I happen to feel the same way about religion. I can respect the other persons beliefs but feel it is inappropriate for either of us to force our beliefs on each other.
[–] DrinkYourNailPolish ago
I care about the MAN. Like if you can make me laugh, love Donald Trump as much as I do, and likes to have deep discussions- I won't be able to handle that 3 inches!! ;P I don't like "bad boys" b/c I don't like boys- I like MEN who handle their business. And I don't give a rat's tail what his social status is, just as long as he takes care of his bills and isn't a leech. Side note: When I met my husband, he was unemployed, but he made me laugh and we had lots of intelligent conversations. We've been together now for 6 years and I don't plan on leaving any time soon! :)