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[–] ThisIsWhoWeR 0 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago  (edited ago)

I don't have a good relationship w/ my mother, anyone else the same w/ their parents?

Go fuck yourself with that shit.

I don't even know why I'm turning to here but, I guess getting it off my chest might help, might not...

This is the prototypical GAFfot lonelypost. They all begin exactly like this.

To be brutally honest, I'm not looking for "Yea, man, I got a wonderful relationship with my mother/father!". I don't know what exactly I'm looking for actually.

You don't know why you're posting, then you do know, and then you don't. Okay.

Basically my wife and I got married 4 years ago and had our son, he's almost 2 now. We live about 10 minutes from my mom. Some background info on her:

I sighed when I got to the end of that text block.

She and my dad were married for 23 years before divorcing. From year 1, he told me she showed signs of extreme jealousy, paranoia, irrational suspicions and thoughts, just completely unreasonable. They had my older brother and so my dad said he stayed with her for the sake of his kids (me and my two brothers). To make a long story short, she always wants to watch my son, and she used to, but my wife and I have a lot of reservations. She's almost 60 years old and isn't in the best health. She's often had low blood pressure to the point of fainting, blacking out. Her house isn't that clean, extremely stuffy, bad dog smell...it's just not safe for our son. Can't have her watching him alone when she can pass out at anytime.

That's how I imagine Besada's house.

My brothers and I have had a very formal relationship with her because her sensitivity and mental issues have pushed us away, sadly. She wasn't very loving through us growing up...she constantly says things like 'you don't care about your mother', 'you don't love me', etc, and it hurts hearing that from your mom, because it's not true at all. I've sat with her many times and talked about it, and she agrees I'm right but goes right back to it all. Never changes.

His mom is Tony Soprano's mom, apparently. Except Tony was only euphemistically in a "waste management" career, and the mobster was smart enough to get into therapy instead of making due with his creepy buddies at the saddest watering hole in the world.

Basically my wife and I are going to tell her tomorrow that we'd strongly prefer he not stay at her house but she can come over and see him anytime. It won't go over well, at all. Going to be a real awkward and bad conversation. She loves him to death. But...we don't know what to do anymore because it's causing my wife and I to fight a lot, it's hurting our marriage.

So nut up and do it. What's your mom going to do, try to put a hit out on you?

I don't want to keep rambling, I guess it's just human nature to find comfort in others in similar situations.

"Please tell me I matter and stroke my hair."

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[–] Disappointed 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

I'm tipping that will be a huge thread. All the fuckups on that site have to have mommy or daddy issues.

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[–] Dillinger48 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

Paging Amirox

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[–] RumboBumbo ago 

Isn't it weird that he's afraid to leave his done with her mom because she might faint, but doesn't seem to care at all that she might faint alone in her home?

Sounds like he secretly wants her to die.