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[–] Trippin0ut 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

Her saying I want a "hiatus" is really just saying "I want to persue other men and not feel like I'm doing something wrong". Cause you were on a hiatus, right? I agree with the previous sentiment to cut it now, deal with the pain, so you don't carry that shit in to deployment. I'm sorry shit worked out this way but your bros are giving solid advice.

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[–] ArturiMindset 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

She might be looking for a soft exit and this is it.

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[–] Opieswife 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

She is telling you she can't commit to a long term serious relationship with long breaks in between. If this will be a part of your life she will find it more and more difficult to cope with the time apart. I would graciously end this now. Part ways as friends if possible. There is nothing wrong with her not being able to manage this but you shouldn't be penalized.

There are woman who can handle long deployments. I have been married over 20 years and my husband is away for months at a time including holidays and we manage (yes even as long as 6 months). I look forward to his time home which we cherish. The time together is wonderful, we do lots of activities together and the time apart allow us to persue our own interests. I never worry about fidelity and neither does he. If we didn't have trust and respect for each other this wouldn't work.

Good luck :)

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[–] Ashra 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

You have a good perspective on it. However, I think it is pertinent that they have only been dating a year, and now he will be gone 6 months (plus the 1 month he was gone while they were living together). That is more than 1/3 of their young relationship spent apart. I think she just had such a hard time with the 1 month apart that she is smart enough to know that 6 times that will be too difficult for her. I am happy that she asked for a break instead of cheating.

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[–] Opieswife 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

You make a good point about them being together for such a short time. I think it is mature of her to have mentioned something early on. You are right, speaking up now is certainly better than cheating.