[–] KinkRaven 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago (edited ago)
It's because you walked away and didn't act like a pussy that she turned around and feels she now has to qualify herself to you.
If you had broken down or tried to appeal to her she would not have messaged you like that, it's because you acted like mature person that you increased your sexual market value to her.
This is referred to as a comfort test and you did the right thing by not engaging right away, by showing her that your are your own person and not an extension of her will. Shit test will probably come once she feels she has qualified herself to you again, then she'll do something kind of mean towards you, ignore it and if it continues walk away.
This doesn't mean she is a bad person or anything like that, it's just the a way to feel out if your are worth investing her time into. My advice is to continue to focus on yourself, do not give into the impulse to place her on a pedestal. Talk to her, not down to her, and remember you are your own person, with your own goals and it's that what makes you attractive to her.
Anyone been in a situation like this?
Yes, every single man throughout the history has gone through this and we all were just as confused as you are.
[–] LittleBobbyTables 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Years into the future from now you're going to look back at this and go "wtf did I care or spend so much stress, anxiety, time, and energy over thay for". You'll hear this type of response from older people like myself. And they're/we're mostly right in saying that because most of us have experienced similar situations when we were teens - but that certainly doesn't help you now does it?
Here's where I'll be hopefully a bit different and more helpful. The truth is when adults say "take it from me" or "learn from my mistakes" they're forgetting that part of what got them to their conclusion and viewpoint was the need to go through those experiences first hand. Is how we learn who we are, what we want and don't want, and how to approach situations afterwards. It's kinda like burning your hand on a hot pot or similar; I can tell you it is hot and you'll burn yourself, but that doesn't really mean anything to you until you experience it. And that sucks sometimes but it's necessary.
So with that said I'll say this about your situation. Things are very confusing at your age for both genders. You're both trying to explore and learn what you want and don't. It's often hard to stay in one relationship for long as it causes mixed feelings - first, you're changing internally very rapidly so what you feel and want one day may change drastically a week later, only to revert back again 2 weeks later (so when things seem great with you and some girl they can nosedive suddenly, and when they seem lost it could come back again soon after); second, long term relationships are very rare from your age and that's probably for the best...if you spend your entire highschool and college years with the same person it may leave one or both of you wondering with some regret what other opportunities were missed out on and cause issues down the line. Sometimes mistakes need to be made to realize you had something great to begin with and go back to. So even if you start to feel rejected maybe just know that it really isn't necessarily you that she is confused about, she may be very confused about herself and what she wants as well, and she may be torn and not want to ruin a friendship with you or whatever. You're in some tough years but also some of the best years in my opinion so try to hang in there and have fun with it, but don't get too caught up thinking these things are all that matter in life ... you have so much ahead of you.
[–] uberdoober 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago (edited ago)
Maybe she got scared yesterday and is feeling more brave today. Just play it cool man. Pretend her change of mind doesn't bother you, be nice but don't kiss her ass, it's a new relationship sounds like so there will be a period of getting acquainted that can get awkward. When awkward happens it's best not to talk about it and just move on to more fun topics or activities.
Remember, she may be your crush today, but things can change. Be the chill laid back guy who never loses his cool and rarely talks shit about people, be the guy who notices the good in people and compliments them on it, and her friends will be lining up to date you when you two decide to call it quits.
[–] probablysarcastic ago
Judge people by their actions not their words. I learned that way too late in life. You're both 15, no 15 year old knows what love is yet. Your feelings may be incredibly powerful I don't mean to diminish that. But love isn't a feeling. Love is a course of action over a long period of time.
So, instead of falling in love with anyone try to take a lighthearted approach. Date people, have fun, don't take anything too seriously.
And when you don't listen to this advice (I sure wouldn't have) know that heartbreak fades faster than you can imagine. Emotional scars are part of what will make you an adult. It is a beautiful yet melancholy part of being human.
/notsarcasticinthiscase
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[–] jellymanta [S] 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
shes playing with you and really sincerely believes she is "following her heart."
I have a sneaking suspicion that you're right. Thanks for the comment.
[–] bisaya 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
She's using you for comfort, something she feels is a safe and reliable to come back to. You threatened that by telling her your feelings and she is now attempting damage control. She's not sure yet how far she'd go to keep you but one thing is for sure: she's not interested in you the way you want her to be.
Now your decision to make is: do you want to continue to be her friend, her comfort zone?
Make sure you understand what that brings. She's going to be so near yet so far away. She may change her mind later on about you but note that you're not first choice and, if that happens, it's not going to happen anytime soon. You're going to hear all about her relationships and help her through some rough times which, frankly, should be her problem and opportunity to grow, not your burden to carry.