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[–] obi-1 3 points -3 points (+0|-3) ago 

Upvoat jedi when you see them :)

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[–] GoAskErin ago  (edited ago)

The first thing you have to do is completely rethink how you were told to live. Do you know who you are? Do you know what you really want and love? I'm talking about the things you would gladly do but don't, for whatever reason. You need to understand your relationship with, and desire for those things, and embrace a careful hedonism whereinm short of what is going to really hurt you, you learn to not hold yourself back from pleasure. This doesn't necessarily mean being irresponsible or sleeping around at epic levels. It means practicing the fine art of indulging yourself on a regular basis.

Start trying out new foods and eating the occasional truly guilty meal. I'm talking about putting a package of bacon in the oven and eating it all yourself. Take up hobbies on pure whim and experiment with them. Do something utterly ridiculous that isn't going to break your legs. Travel, if you can afford it.

Evaluate your friendships and try to eliminate making chit-chat as a regular standby, if you have a tendency to do that. Bring up weird things. Ask people to try something with you, and note the people who are down for adventures. These are the guys who can turn you on to new stuff.

Try not to make commitments or take up responsibilities. Short-term is good, but watch out for long-term. Prioritize yourself. You can always say no, and change your mind, but saying yes can be a trap. Don't bite off more than you can, or want to, chew.

Spoil yourself when you can. Take a nap when you can. Eat slow meals and savor them. Stare out at nature. Space out. Throw a one-person dance party and take up the ethical version of "do it because you can." Go watch old TV shows you used to love with like friends and see if they held up. Do coloring books if you liked that. Have a smores night and build blanket forts.

Aim for long, lasting pleasures mainly, and some shorter-lived ones. A vacation is something to look forward to, but is short and expensive. Buy something that would cost the same amount, but give you many more hours of enjoyment-- unless getting away really would do that for you.

If you want to try something dangerous, make careful preparations and get the help of people you trust. Whether that's drugs or going skydiving or what. Don't do anything that will try to control you.

On that note, people who try to control you-- try eliminating them from your life. Always ask, What If? Not just, What If I Climbed A Mountain, but What If I Stopped Giving A Shit About This Dumb Thing? What If I Quit My Job? What If I Never Had To Deal With ____ Again?

For your job, and this doesn't work if you prioritize money-- which is how a lot of people would acquire the things they find fun-- find someplace that's -pleasant- to work that won't have you in the red, to a level you can tolerate. I make lousy pay, but I generally enjoy my job, and I very much love the people I work with. I'm okay with what I'm doing, and it has ups and downs. But, I never have to take my work home, it doesn't have much in the way of deadlines, I'm not micromanaged, my bosses are great people, and I'm not physically or mentally exhausting myself on a regular basis. In short, try something that isn't stressful, if you can.

Every person is different, and your needs are bound to be different from mine. But, that's my approach. It seems backwards to some people, until they talk to me long enough. If you're a very active person, replace some of this thinking nonsense with sports, even extreme sports. Try Extreme Ironing. Try something you-- even if you have to create it. Just start combining things you like.

Remember, money is imaginary. You're buying things with hours of your life and your physical health as valued by a market that couldn't care less. Purchase long-term items, and bring things into your life that don't really cost, like friends who help you grow.

Last, but not least-- if none of this works for you, and you're instead crippled by ennui and depression, congratulations/condolences: you are looking for meaning in your life, which cannot be bought or traveled to, maybe can't be solved. But, you can decide if and how you think it exists. Objective meaning and purpose may not exist for you. Subjective meaning and purpose may not come into existence for you. If you get to this point, just start reading a ton of philosophy... or learn to give up the quest and embrace being able to ask a question without needing to know the answer, maybe.

Edit: Holy FUCK, Voat kept telling me that my post didn't go through and to try again. I did NOT mean to submit all those duplicates. WTF. Jesus tap-dancing christ, man.

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[–] lens163 ago 

It is difficult to give a meaningful reply to your question without knowing about about you. For example:
How old are you?
Are you fit?
Male or Female?
Have you money?

Answers to these and many more similar questions would need to be taken into consideration before attempting to answer your question.

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[–] PM_ME_EXPERIMENTS 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

Be in the moment, whatever it is, drop any ideology that isn't consistent with reality and cut out anything that detracts from your goals.

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[–] Phuffu 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

Anytime you think, "Nah, I don't feel like doing that", DO IT!

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[–] Pawn 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago  (edited ago)

Fear of death? LOL you do know you are going to die no matter what, right? You can't escape death. It looms just a few steps behind. With your fear of death settled, go outside, have some fun. Hike places. Explore. Climb a mountain. Collect as many life experiences as you can, within reason, before you die and you'll have the best afterlife ever.

Strap some JAT's to a small propeller driven aircraft and activate that shit in mid-air, you'll LOL

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[–] Pawn 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

well buddy, get out there, collect life experiences. That all you will take when you die. Make a list of what you are interested in.

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[–] just_signed_up 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

Go rob a bank BUT do not hurt anybody.

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[–] just_signed_up 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago  (edited ago)

When you and your mates are retired, gather them up and pull off a sick jewellery heist, like these guys.

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[–] newoldwave 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

Show some kindness to someone everyday, no matter how small. You'll be amazed at the result.

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