[–] ardvarcus 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Regret is useless, except as a way to remind yourself not to do evil or stupid things in the future. But pain, fear and frustration are motivators. You can use them to energize yourself and push yourself beyond your limits. Look forward, not backward. You can't change the past, but you can change the future.
[–] chryseos-geckota ago
Not sure, you kinda gotta keep pushing through it.
I feel your pain. I squandered my younger years mourning improperly the death of my father and then wasted my best years with not very great woman.
Took me way too long to realize and get rid of her horribleNess in my life.
So much I could have done. I jist have to realize that I wasted time and try to make up for it.
[–] albatrosv15 ago
You are going to die anyway.
[–] DffrntDrmmr 1 point -1 points 0 points (+0|-1) ago
Just go day by day, you know, beating yourself up over and over again.
[–] 475677 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Late to the pity party but I know my shit here. Regret is an emotion you feel to shape your future. It's like riding a bike, you learn to not fall off due to how much it fucking sucks more than anything else. Regret is emotional pain that's cause by losing things you care about. Do you regret not finishing that dinner 3 years ago even though it was delicious? Maybe at the time, but does it have that lasting pain like losing a loved one? Obviously not. The more it hurts the more it shows how deeply you cared. Embrace this feeling. The more you deny it the more you bottle it up and ignore reality and our emotions need release. Angry people who never spaz out in the moment are always walking around nearly at 100% so small shit makes them lose it whereas a person that swears and carries on to get it out of their system in the moment might seem like a crazy angry person but they're otherwise bubbly and cheerful in life. You need to feel it, you need to learn from it and you need to use it to motivate you into actions that will protect you while exposing you to the same risks in the future. You don't stop trying to learn to ride a bike because of the pain, you hop right back on and embrace the suck until you get it right. If you need to break down and have a cry or whatever do it, just don't act like an escapist faggot and drown your sorrows with the liquid jew or whatever. You got this mate and I believe it enough for the both of us so embrace it and better your lot in life remembering that even if you fall victim to it again it's the most beautiful kind of sadness there is because you've cared and it matters so much but that you will get back on that bike again. There's no stopping your progression unless you will it so fuck those faggoty thoughts off, you fuckin got this and will take life by the balls, no homo.