[–] Thereunto 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Losing people in your life (one way or another) can be like losing a limb. It's like trying to reinvent your instincts to match your new circumstances. Sometimes you feel that phantom limb. Sometimes you stumble and regress. Sometimes you forget that your life has a new balance. You sometimes feel weak and empty. Grief comes in waves. Sleeping enough to have dreams helps remodulate your brain to the here and now. It is important to have patience for yourself. Just like a gaping wound, it eventually scars, and the scar eventually fades. Depending on how well you let yourself heal, it can either be a nasty sensitive scar, or a gentle landmark of things that were.
[–] IsaacJan [S] 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
Ha. When I first moved I had a really shitty job. My ex got married soon after because that’s all she wanted in life. I banged hot southern girls and that was cool, but they were the trash jews made them, and I realized it was too late, I wanted to fuck girls like a young kid. During that shitty job it kind of clicked that I wanted to have a family, so that wound became a nasty scar. It was a real bad time.
[–] wasteroftime 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago (edited ago)
This is something that pretty much everyone deals with on some level. Just be glad that you're still young, so you've yet to really fuck up, most likely. One day something is likely to happen that will make all other things shrink in comparison. Just saying. When I was younger and more romantic, I had thought I lost the love of my life, just to grow up and realize that I had simply been hooked on the fantasy that the modern world tries to sell everyone. Same thing with jobs, so many think you have to make x dollars, have this degree, etc., when this is not so. It is another lie sold to the masses; jobs and opportunity come and go. These things get easier as you age, as you see more. Many others have not been able to make it as far as you in years; some days it is enough to simply be. Over all, on the nights that nip at the back of the mind, I remind myself that I, like everyone else, am but a mote of dust, just an actor playing a role till the scenery changes. In the grand scheme of the universe, we simply do not matter, so... May as well sit back and enjoy the show. It helps to have others to laugh and cry with, though; seek them out (quality over vapid masses!). It enriches the experience greatly. There is also something to be said for making things better than you found them as well, for even though we may not ultimately matter, maybe it will seem to matter to the next person. Why not make things easier for them (and in turn yourself)? Just as you are looking for a hand up now, there is no reason to not lend a hand as well. Sorry for the rambling answer, but I am not religious, and have only my own experience to draw from and make sense of, and I haven't bothered to organize any of it in any meaningful manner.
[–] IsaacJan [S] 0 points 5 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago
I have talked about 6 people down from suicide in my life. I attract broken people. It’s my proudest trait, if the most painful. I’ve changed a lot of lives because I was there. I’ve also lost a few I couldn’t save. My life had meaning to them when I didn’t think so myself, so I keep that in mind. Nowadays I only talk to a few people, I should really expand out. You’re right, being around people is much better than being alone.
I attract broken people.
Ah, we should really be getting along then. Excuse my "yer a bot" accusations.
Nowadays I only talk to a few people
And I, none outside of family.
You’re right, being around people is much better than being alone.
Eh... Sometimes being alone allows you to focus.
[–] wasteroftime ago
It's good to have value, and even better to know it. Hang on to that, if nothing else, as it is clearly precious to you. Glad all my rambling wasn't too all over the place lol, hope it helps.
[–] HeyJeorge 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
I generally either prefer to consider the possibility that we are in a Multiverse, where an infinite number of universes exist where we do any infinite number of possibilities, simultaneously - or that life is really just an overall shitshow, time is the only real currency you have, and you are the sum of your experiences, environment, and opportunities.
Either way I tend to have something better to do than worry about shit I cannot change on this timeline.
I believe in reincarnation and this is life is just a part Im playing. When I was younger I thought it was the only part I could play ever, and losing that was devastating. But then I realized that we play multiple roles in one life as well. No one is ever the same thing their whole life. Life is too long for that. I use to regret not marrying my high school sweetheart, but that was not the me I was meant to be.
The only thing I regret now is how I treated people unfairly. Good people badly and bad people too good.
[–] Firinmahlazer 0 points 6 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago
Honestly not trying to sound like a macho dick here but I just try to ignore it. I spent a lot of time when I was in my late teens - early twenties thinking about past mistakes and making myself miserable over it. It's easier said than done but live your life in the moment.
[–] Derpfroot 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
Same here. Only thing to do from there is not to make the same mistake(s) again. Forgive yourself, but don't forget it. No one's perfect. Damn near everyone's had this shit happen to them. After some years, you just realize you fucked up and you don't do it again.
[–] ColdSteam 0 points 8 points 8 points (+8|-0) ago
A lot of people might say to ignore it or whatever. That just pushes it deeper, and it'll keep piling up in the background. It's like pushing pingpong balls under the water, eventually you won't be able to keep em all down. Then you'll have a fuckin meltdown.
Better method: take the bull by the horns and wrestle that sumbitch to the ground. Just do it one thing at a time so you don't feel overwhelmed. It's work. So do the work.
Night time is the best time, no distractions and you have to face the beast.
Life is hard. Be harder. Take pride in surviving and enduring. Know that the weaker run, hide, and ignore.
[–] PaulNeriAustralia 1 point -1 points 0 points (+0|-1) ago
tire yourself during the day and stay up late on the PC (preferably Voat) so that when you hit the sack you'll fall straight asleep only to be tormented by dreams which is to say...you can't win. You are now a tortured being and only falling in love will set you free.
I know what you mean: night time is when your brain starts to relax and your thoughts become freer. In some sense those are your true thoughts that just get pushed out during the day. If they keep happening it means there is still something you are trying to figure out. Embrace them! But fully, as in try to figure out exactly what is thing that is bothering you. Maybe it comes down to a single conversation or words said. Decide to never let yourself do that again. That decision and self ownership is what turns it from regret into change.
[–] NoseSubversion 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Follow Saint Tarrant.
[–] IsaacJan [S] 0 points 4 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago
Kek. You first pal.
[–] NoseSubversion 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Why? So I can tell you I DON’T regret it? Lol!!