You're lucky that you are even aware of your mistakes. I wasted about 2/3 of my life to this point and I've only recently come to realize how bad it sucks. When I was young, I had so much potential. But now I'm old and all I can do is make the best of the time I have left. And that's all any of us can do. The sooner we realize that, the better.
[–] fattyfatigue ago
At least you're young and have time to change things. Been divorced four years, am 43 now. It's harder to turn things around now, but it is amazing how much things have changed since then.
[–] 475677 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Late to the pity party but I know my shit here. Regret is an emotion you feel to shape your future. It's like riding a bike, you learn to not fall off due to how much it fucking sucks more than anything else. Regret is emotional pain that's cause by losing things you care about. Do you regret not finishing that dinner 3 years ago even though it was delicious? Maybe at the time, but does it have that lasting pain like losing a loved one? Obviously not. The more it hurts the more it shows how deeply you cared. Embrace this feeling. The more you deny it the more you bottle it up and ignore reality and our emotions need release. Angry people who never spaz out in the moment are always walking around nearly at 100% so small shit makes them lose it whereas a person that swears and carries on to get it out of their system in the moment might seem like a crazy angry person but they're otherwise bubbly and cheerful in life. You need to feel it, you need to learn from it and you need to use it to motivate you into actions that will protect you while exposing you to the same risks in the future. You don't stop trying to learn to ride a bike because of the pain, you hop right back on and embrace the suck until you get it right. If you need to break down and have a cry or whatever do it, just don't act like an escapist faggot and drown your sorrows with the liquid jew or whatever. You got this mate and I believe it enough for the both of us so embrace it and better your lot in life remembering that even if you fall victim to it again it's the most beautiful kind of sadness there is because you've cared and it matters so much but that you will get back on that bike again. There's no stopping your progression unless you will it so fuck those faggoty thoughts off, you fuckin got this and will take life by the balls, no homo.
[–] ardvarcus 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Regret is useless, except as a way to remind yourself not to do evil or stupid things in the future. But pain, fear and frustration are motivators. You can use them to energize yourself and push yourself beyond your limits. Look forward, not backward. You can't change the past, but you can change the future.
[–] AtroNotsAreGay 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago (edited ago)
Repent! Jesus told us over and over to repent. Meditation is weak and for megalomanics. Talk to Jesus.
[–] DffrntDrmmr ago
Sorry to be the one to break the news to you. Perhaps you'd better sit down.
Friend, Jesus is dead.
Happened quite some time ago. Something about being nailed to wood or something.
Sorry.
[–] Ashra 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Everyone definitely has regrets. One thing I try to remember: "is dwelling on and stressing about the past helping me?" I can't change the past, but I can change the present, and stressing is not helpful (it actually releases cortisol and is bad for your health). As others have said- LEARN from your past, and you are doing the greatest good you can for your future.
I always was sad that my siblings didn't end up staying with their "first loves"- but one of their ex's turned into a SJW that tries to ruin peoples reputation if they have wrong-think, and the other is pretty indoctrinated. There are blessings in disguise. Also, depending on you belief system- there is a consciousness that is beyond us that can see all possibilities- and is guiding us. It might be so difficult at the moment, but just keep going towards your intentions and you will get where you want, although the path may look different than you expect. Love to you friend, be kind to yourself.
[–] VognerDuke76 ago
Learn to forgive yourself.
[–] PaulNeriAustralia 1 point -1 points 0 points (+0|-1) ago
what's the good of that if no one else forgives him?
[–] VognerDuke76 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
It's healing ground zero. It doesn't matter what everyone else thinks, because you have to live with yourself 24/7. People come and go.