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Sound advice. I wasn't looking for someone so young (she was 18 when we first hooked up) and I definitely wasn't looking for someone so heavy (over 300lbs), but I turned an apolitical liberal into an non-feminist race realist in a matter of six months.
I also made weight loss a deal breaker. "I want to be with someone healthy. That doesn't mean skinny as hell, but it does mean lean. Like how I am." 15 months later, she's 20, aspiring to be my wife and mother of my children (I'm talking her into 5+), and she's lost 120lb. By the way, she's tall and mostly German by blood; 0% body fat is 145lb for her. She says she's going to lose 40 more; I want to see 25 more. That's a matter of months.
I treated her like a real person, with choices, responsibilities, and consequences from day one. Not something she was used to. I took her decision to lose weight and turned it into determination. Since then, I've manipulated her to stand by her decisions, to stand up for herself more, to recognize when people are just using her, and to ask when she wants something. Our relationship is insanely healthy; we can talk through anything.
Anyway, fats are a great choice because they're much less arrogant, they've fucked way fewer guys generally, they want an actual relationship, and they both want and need a personal authority figure to help them regain control of their lives.
Fat women aren't failing us; they're failing themselves, and we're failing them.
[–] Stubbabubba 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
This is what happened to my wife as well. We knew each other for a few years. We always hung around the same crowd and we're good friends. She liked me but she was over weight. I told her if she wanted to start dating she would have to start losing weight. I told her that if things got serious I didn't want to be with someone who was keeping themselves unhealthy.b she agreed and now we have a fucking cute son together. Be a man and lead
[–] Y8goKTH959VCLKty8xIz 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Mine is still a land whale after three years. What’s ur trick?
[–] Native [S] 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
Are you married?
If married it's harder.
If married, start lifting weights and get strong, she will notice when other women notice you.
If not married, be honest and have a sit down and talk to her about it and don't take anything but weightloss as an answer.
[–] Voat_Has_Fallen 0 points 5 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago
"You are fat, if you are serious about a relationship with me you need to lose weight."
It will be harder after 3 years of cucking, but make it a deal breaker. Also, stop feeding her.
[–] Eleutheria 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
I had the same thing happen with an ideological swing, to a lesser extent. I didn't really talk politics with my girlfriend for the first date or two, but knew she was at least 2A friendly because she's from the country and owns guns. At the one month mark, I find out she was right leaning, but mostly apolitical.
Last night, we were killing time by watching a TV show (which rarely happens), and she called out a racemixed couple before I did.
I don't even consider myself a good "leader", but over time I just calmly and rationally made my points. I didn't have to be as "on the nose" about it as I would with a more pressing issue like weight, but it worked. I could have just as easily said "Wow, I found someone, I need to tone it down and match her political bent so I don't scare her off". But that would have shown a complete lack of leadership, and she would have found a new "leader" somewhere in (((pop culture))).