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[–] LagDragon 0 points 10 points (+10|-0) ago 

“…tomorrow and plans for tomorrow can have no significance at all unless you are in full contact with the reality of the present, since it is in the present and only in the present that you live.” – Alan Watts

My philosophy: Do whatever makes you happy without harming others.

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[–] TremorAcePV [S] 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago  (edited ago)

And if what I do is not profitable? Or I don't know what makes me happy? Or what makes me happy is bad for me?

I don't mean to shit on your philosophy, but it may not be for me. Thank you for giving your input though.

I guess I may not be understanding how your philosophy would coincide with the basic necessities. I have to live somewhere for example. How do I decide that when I have no connection to any specific place and figuring out the pros/cons of moving to any specific place is something I don't know how to do and probably wouldn't have the time to figure out before having to move?

Things like that. Replace where to live with what job and it doesn't change much.

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[–] LagDragon 0 points 8 points (+8|-0) ago 

And if what I do is not profitable? If making money makes you happy then do something that makes money

Or I don't know what makes me happy? I would prioritize the search

Or what makes me happy is bad for me? A hedonist wouldn't mind.

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[–] RoosterMeditation 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago  (edited ago)

I struggled with what to do for a long time. I then decided to accept I may never know and started trying, failing and succeeding. Personally,, I now aim to be a solid person and live according to the things I believe. I also stopped blaming and tearing everyone down in my head. Everyone's a hypocrite, including me. Shouldn't stop us from trying.

Stuff that helped. Learning about Mother Theresa. Checking my ego and realizing it's not all life or death. Knowing that friends come and go and that's how life works - you don't have to stay in touch with everyone. Don't be ashamed of what you enjoy unless it hurts others. Video games do not hurt others. Graffiti on someone's car hurts others.

Final thought, we're not supposed to understand god or any higher power until we're dead. It's impossible. It's not a hard question to conclusively answer, it's impossible. Maybe something is there, but who knows. I still pray and live by a moral code and read up on faiths. Got a lot of respect for faith leaders. But they don't know for sure, and you can't either.

I included this last bit because it was constantly on my mind when I was struggling with this stuff

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[–] MasquettaMan 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

How old are you?

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[–] Gerplunckamo 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

Psilocybin mushrooms helped me when I had lost my way, OP. Maybe they can help you too.

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[–] mrrogerssweater 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

Beautiful answer. I will follow and didn'teven asked. :) Congrats on your life!

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[–] TremorAcePV [S] 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Is this a good place to start? http://personaltao.com/teachings/taoism/taoism-101/

"Taoism teaches a person to live to their heart."

My heart is silent. Kinda always has been. I'm basically completely out of touch with what is going inside myself emotionally. I've never understood it and looking at other people, I can only imagine that they are different.

"Taoism teaches a person to flow with life."

Basically what I've done up until now. Taken the opportunities offered to me as they are presented based on what I want and want to be. My problem is that I don't see any more opportunities. Or rather, I see too many.

Choice Paralysis, I guess. I can do anything with my life and I don't know what I would possibly want. So, I suppose I do nothing?

But nothing isn't good enough for me atm. It's like wanting something but not knowing what you want. It's so frustrating.

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[–] BflySamurai 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

I know there are some communities for multipotentiality around the web that might be interested to you.

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[–] bm2112 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

Do you have anything in particular you love doing?

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[–] TremorAcePV [S] 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

IT work. I like computers and am pretty good at trouble shooting them. I've considered doing this as a job, but there's a lot of issues that get in my way with that. I am basically a child in a man's body socially. I look at other people and don't understand what it means to be human, I guess? I don't know how to talk to people IRL. This makes having a regular job fairly difficult not to mention getting one.

I imagine that people feel comfortable with who they are and how they work internally. I don't know what that feels like.

I don't know where to live, or what you'd even consider to decide that.

You could say I don't even have a game plan, to get a game plan for my life. If I'm rambling, I'm sorry. I'm struggling with this.

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[–] Tbear05 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

The best way to get over social anxiety is to get a job where you talk to people like a cashier or something on the phone if you want to start off small. Although most people are nicer in person than on the phone.

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[–] PM_ME_YOUR_ARCHES 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

You and I sound very similar to each other in a few ways, but I wouldn't have known how to word it like that. I think the best advice I could give is that sometimes you might find the only thing that stops you from doing what you want to do is yourself. I know that I am capable of doing things but I am susceptible to self-sabotage sometimes, because I feel like I can't function the way other people do. I was basically at a dead end in my life until recently, but now I've found something I want to work towards.

I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing that you haven't fully decided what you want, as a lot of the time people become unhappy if they go down a certain path too early.

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[–] Stanley_Yelnats_IV 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Sounds to me like the best way forward is to work out your social difficulties. I also struggled with social cues for a long time, but just because it doesn't come naturally to you doesn't mean you can't learn. Ultimately, social interactions are just a complex game, full of rules for which statements and actions are appropriate in which situations. Most people understand this by intuition, but you can do it via simple practice and memorization; worked for me.

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[–] Pawn 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

develop some social skills, talk to people on voat. Be open, but not too open. I assume you're male, so just give them a friendly hello ask what the problem is and get to work once you have the details sorted. you're YOU, get'er done.

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[–] Tbear05 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Do What you love doing/ are good at doing. This will help you be successful and enjoy every part of it.

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