[–] tanzmeister [S] ago
I want to encourage them to be more genuine and perhaps make the environment in which I work a better community? I realize that most people are just there for the paycheck, but why pretend?
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[–] wayne 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
It sounds like you're just wanting everyone who isn't heavily invested in a heart-felt answer from you to say something to the effect of, "Greetings, fellow person!" and then walk past you. That said, this is a "you" issue, not a "them" issue. Learn to operate in the society you live in. If you are concerned with pointing out how fake and hollow someone sounds in normal, everyday small talk, you're going to make a lot of enemies and no difference.
How about building relationships so that when they ask, they have a reason to care about the relationship? I can tell you that if someone responded to a casual "Hey man, how's it going?" with something like, "Why does it matter to you? You don't know me and wouldn't care if I told you." I would just completely cut off conversation with that person, as much as possible.
Maybe that's what you want.
That's a stupid thing to want.
[–] tanzmeister [S] ago
Sorry for coming off so negative. It's just, all day I hear conversations about nothing and it grinds me down. It makes me wonder how long I have before I'm perfectly fine with those kind of interactions.
[–] Emu_Mud_Wrestling 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck
Before I read this article I used to care about people being fake too. Pay attention to
Subtlety #3: We All Have A Limited Number Of Fucks To Give; Pay Attention To Where And Who You Give Them To
It is really quite liberating when you realize how much energy you were putting into these interactions that are inconsequential and conserve your energy for times when it counts. A simple, "good, you?" is low energy and lets you get to what you need to get to. /v/nomerasques point is an excellent starting point too.
[–] tanzmeister [S] ago
Nice. At the risk of delving too deep, I think I give too many fucks about people giving the wrong fucks. I usually try not to give a fuck, so I'll try harder.
[–] roboticon ago (edited ago)
/v/nomerasques doesn't exist
EDIT: oops, i thought you were suggesting a subverse as a starting point. You were trying to reference the comment /u/nomerasques made.
[–] Ripley_Riae 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
How are you?- I'm fine
Up to much recently/Whats new with you- Same old same old
Not exactly hard
[–] tanzmeister [S] 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
See, how would someone I don't know have any idea what my "same old same old" is? Sorry for being so cynical, but it's a conversation based on nothing.
[–] Astromachine 0 points 4 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago
Saying "how's it going?" is a non-committal conversation starter. It leaves you, the receiver the opportunity to actually engage in a conversation or dismiss it it you like without any sort of social obligations. If I did care how you were doing and said "So, tell me how you're doing" this is much more forceful and, if you're not interested or comfortable with the conversation it is more difficult because you have to actually refuse me. Just saying "Hi" in passing also does not really tell you the person sending the greeting is open to a conversation. So, if there is something you want to talk about you have to be the one initiating the conversation.
[–] Astromachine ago
It isn't itself the conversation starter, it is a neutral invitation to start a conversation. At the very least, if you respond with a conversation the person who isn't interested then has to back out of it. In which case, those who are not open to conversations will not use it since there are lots of other polite greetings which don't open you up for conversation. Such as "good morning."
[–] oozeling ago
Why do you keep mentioning autism, if you don't mind my asking? ARE you autistic, or are you using it as the new "retarded"?
[–] tanzmeister [S] ago (edited ago)
It was originally just a joke, but I forgot this is the internet.