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[–] Emu_Mud_Wrestling 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck

Before I read this article I used to care about people being fake too. Pay attention to

Subtlety #3: We All Have A Limited Number Of Fucks To Give; Pay Attention To Where And Who You Give Them To

It is really quite liberating when you realize how much energy you were putting into these interactions that are inconsequential and conserve your energy for times when it counts. A simple, "good, you?" is low energy and lets you get to what you need to get to. /v/nomerasques point is an excellent starting point too.

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[–] roboticon ago  (edited ago)

/v/nomerasques doesn't exist

EDIT: oops, i thought you were suggesting a subverse as a starting point. You were trying to reference the comment /u/nomerasques made.

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[–] Emu_Mud_Wrestling ago 

My bad. Thanks for the help.

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[–] tanzmeister [S] ago 

Nice. At the risk of delving too deep, I think I give too many fucks about people giving the wrong fucks. I usually try not to give a fuck, so I'll try harder.

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[–] wayne 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

It sounds like you're just wanting everyone who isn't heavily invested in a heart-felt answer from you to say something to the effect of, "Greetings, fellow person!" and then walk past you. That said, this is a "you" issue, not a "them" issue. Learn to operate in the society you live in. If you are concerned with pointing out how fake and hollow someone sounds in normal, everyday small talk, you're going to make a lot of enemies and no difference.

How about building relationships so that when they ask, they have a reason to care about the relationship? I can tell you that if someone responded to a casual "Hey man, how's it going?" with something like, "Why does it matter to you? You don't know me and wouldn't care if I told you." I would just completely cut off conversation with that person, as much as possible.

Maybe that's what you want.

That's a stupid thing to want.

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[–] tanzmeister [S] ago 

Sorry for coming off so negative. It's just, all day I hear conversations about nothing and it grinds me down. It makes me wonder how long I have before I'm perfectly fine with those kind of interactions.

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[–] roboticon ago  (edited ago)

"I am because I think" does not describe how you are, it is merely proof that you are. How it is you manage to be at all is the real question we want to address.

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[–] mispelledsomething 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

"I'm well, and you?"

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[–] voat-ist 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

You want to point out to strangers and mild acquaintances how fake and hollow they are being? Why?

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[–] tanzmeister [S] ago 

I want to encourage them to be more genuine and perhaps make the environment in which I work a better community? I realize that most people are just there for the paycheck, but why pretend?

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[–] voat-ist ago 

Because the pretending makes the environment better. Being hyper honest at work doesn't make the work environment nicer.

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[–] oozeling ago 

Why do you keep mentioning autism, if you don't mind my asking? ARE you autistic, or are you using it as the new "retarded"?

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[–] tanzmeister [S] ago  (edited ago)

It was originally just a joke, but I forgot this is the internet.