[–] Arotaes_Forgehammer 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
Just say "fine".
[–] Astromachine 0 points 4 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago
Saying "how's it going?" is a non-committal conversation starter. It leaves you, the receiver the opportunity to actually engage in a conversation or dismiss it it you like without any sort of social obligations. If I did care how you were doing and said "So, tell me how you're doing" this is much more forceful and, if you're not interested or comfortable with the conversation it is more difficult because you have to actually refuse me. Just saying "Hi" in passing also does not really tell you the person sending the greeting is open to a conversation. So, if there is something you want to talk about you have to be the one initiating the conversation.
[–] Astromachine ago
It isn't itself the conversation starter, it is a neutral invitation to start a conversation. At the very least, if you respond with a conversation the person who isn't interested then has to back out of it. In which case, those who are not open to conversations will not use it since there are lots of other polite greetings which don't open you up for conversation. Such as "good morning."
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[–] tanzmeister [S] 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago (edited ago)
I see you. I think that people do this when they don't know you, but they think they should. So, giving a slightly more open ended response might be a good way to make them consider ... fuck me this really is sounding autistic. Basically I think society could benefit from a change to the social norm toward more genuine interaction. I guess the place I work is just so devoid of personality that it's starting to get to me.
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[–] tabarjack 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago (edited ago)
For the record, if you do this, people will literally stop pestering you with inane questions such as that. To make them stop faster, I learned that you should always make it sound like everything is going great. The only downside is some retards think you are their friends and ask you for cookies, to which you should just say "no, I'm not your friend" and laugh as his thoughts of having a friend get shattered.
Example: "I'm doing great. Two weeks ago I borrowed 150$ and paid it back yesterday. I am totally debt free now and could go anywhere I wanted without even having to think of the past catching up to me. I can't wait until this weekend, you?"
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[–] tanzmeister [S] 6 points -3 points 3 points (+3|-6) ago
Oh shit! I've never seen this before! Thanks! /s
[–] Emu_Mud_Wrestling 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck
Before I read this article I used to care about people being fake too. Pay attention to
It is really quite liberating when you realize how much energy you were putting into these interactions that are inconsequential and conserve your energy for times when it counts. A simple, "good, you?" is low energy and lets you get to what you need to get to. /v/nomerasques point is an excellent starting point too.
[–] tanzmeister [S] ago
Nice. At the risk of delving too deep, I think I give too many fucks about people giving the wrong fucks. I usually try not to give a fuck, so I'll try harder.
[–] roboticon ago (edited ago)
/v/nomerasques doesn't exist
EDIT: oops, i thought you were suggesting a subverse as a starting point. You were trying to reference the comment /u/nomerasques made.
[–] Emu_Mud_Wrestling ago
My bad. Thanks for the help.