[–] PaulNeriAustralia ago
You come across as very defensive, bro. There's a bit of a contribution to objective inquiry there viz " I'm well aware of the cost involved in terms of time and stress" but overall I'm left with the suspicion you're resentful about having reproduced. I used to live next to a couple who seemed the model of happiness. They had a kid and for the first time I heard arguments and screaming matches and hubby storming out in a rage. There's nothing like a kid to test a relationship to the limits. I simply wouldn't advise it. Can I say bro, being honest, I think kids can be cute and I especially like them after they've had a bath (filthy little wretches that they are) but ... it's a relief to leave them with their parents. I have really appreciated the time I've had in my life to watch a tv show uninterrupted by a kid, read the newspaper etc but most of all it's been the flexibility one has. To be able to say to one's partner on the spur of the moment: "let's take off and have a few days in the City/by the sea". The other thing, bro, about parents is they can never spoil themselves. The kids' needs always come first. The parents think this makes them unselfish and us breeders selfish but they are wrong. All it makes the parents is resentful and jealous and unsettled, unpleasant human beings. Agree?