[–] jimibulgin 0 points 12 points 12 points (+12|-0) ago (edited ago)
I shouldn't hold her too much
BABIES CAN NEVER BE HELD "TOO MUCH"!!!!!!!
By the time they are two they will squirm away from you to go play. Hold her every second that you can!!
PS- I am a man.
[–] KobeBurger 0 points 12 points 12 points (+12|-0) ago
Carry and love your baby as much as you want. The trick to making sure they aren't spoiled is to make them as independent as possible, as soon as possible. As soon as they can walk, teach them to do chores and tell them what great help they are and that they are hard workers. Tell them you appreciate their help, and if they get all of their chores done quickly, you will have time to take them to the park. Another kid coming along? Tell the oldest that they will be a big sister/ brother and that you need their help to take care of their new sibling. Humans care for things that they take care of so the kids will naturally grow up close.
[–] TheAntiZealot ago (edited ago)
Today Kobe was right. Tomorrow, I'm going to a Kobe Steakhouse.
Maybe, I'll order a burger.
[–] KobeBurger ago
Best tenderized under the weight of a helicopter and seared in the flames of fuel.
[–] SOULESS 0 points 9 points 9 points (+9|-0) ago
A lot also say to leave your child to cry alone at night to teach it to sleep alone.
Trust your motherly instinct more than what people tell you. A lot of the neglect techniques lead to kids who trust less and are emotionally unbalanced later in life.
[–] dundundunnnnn 0 points 8 points 8 points (+8|-0) ago
I've had many babies, worn them all, and have not seen a problem with spoiling. Follow your natural instinct.
I wonder what kind of person your mother-in-law is...
[–] Alreadygone 0 points 5 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago
Look up secure versus insecure attachments. You are working on making a secure attachment with your baby for their lifelong emotional health. This will be the first of many tidbits you’ll probably need to ignore from your mother in law. You cannot cannot cannot spoil an infant. Hearing your baby cry will physically hurt too in those early months. Your mama instincts will kick in hard every moment your baby is crying.
[–] ReformedFeminist 0 points 5 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago
It will be so much easier for YOU to wear your baby! Your hands will be free and you won't have to lug around a pumpkin seat everywhere you go. There's a ton of different styles to choose from if you find one kind hurts your back.
[–] Shieldmaden 0 points 4 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago
Short version: Can’t spoil a baby. Hold them as much as possible. You can screw up attachment by not responding appropriately to baby’s needs (look up “attachment disorder” and learn how to avoid it) or you risk ending up with a “f u mom/dad” teenager and adult.
[–] beefartist 0 points 13 points 13 points (+13|-0) ago
Your MIL is either full of shit or as is more typical; constantly passive aggressively undermining their child's spouse so that their grown up baby doesn't realize they were kind of a shitty mother. My son is two and his mom wears him to dance around the living room when he is grumpy or I wear him on long walks