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[–] Broc_Lia ago 

I don't think spoiling applies to infants surely? They're far too young to learn lessons about selfishness and independence.

As for carrying babies around, I'm pretty sure that was the norm in most western countries until recently.

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[–] DanceswithFeet 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

You can't spoil a baby. There has a lot of research that baby wearing actually helps a baby adjust to being outside of the womb. I read a lot of book from Dr Sears on Baby-wearing and the benefits https://www.askdrsears.com/topics/health-concerns/fussy-baby/baby-wearing/benefits-babywearing I used slings and carriers.

I will add from my own experience, only one child I had to put into a stroller (I had surgery months later and couldn't carry her, just hold her) and she is the one that I don't feel as close to than her other two sisters. However it has increased her bond with her dad because he carried her the most.

I never had a problem with them being independent later because I let them have that space when they wanted it.

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[–] whatdaheck 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago  (edited ago)

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[–] AmoebaGrin 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

You cannot spoil a baby. They aren't even capable of being manipulative until they are MUCH older. Don't let your baby cry it out. Baby-wear. Be attentive to your babies needs. Older kids can be spoilt. Not babies. Babies cry to communicate actual needs, and physical closeness is an actual need they have. The more you attend to a child under two, the more independent they will be later. So give your baby the love and affection your baby needs NOW if you truly want an independent child later.

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[–] radwife 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Absolutely not. Developing a strong attachment and stress-free environment for your child under 3 is very important. There is lots of research to support this. And it goes along with natural, mothering instinct as well. So hold your baby, snuggle your baby!

Read about attachment theory (not attachment parenting) to learn more.

Other resources include Rest Play Grow, Hold On to Your Kids, anything by Neufeld or Gabor Mate, original research by Ainsworth or Bowlby. The Montessori Toddler is good too, RIE and Janet Lansbury.

I could go on and on about this but I hope it helps :)

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[–] NoTrueScotsman 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Baby wearing used to be the norm in western cultures, as well. Once the baby carriage was invented, they started shaming baby wearing as a thing only poor people do. Like so many ways our culture has been changed for the worse, it was just marketing.

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[–] KILLtheRATS 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

You can not spoil a baby

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[–] MaFishTacosDaBombBro 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Your mother in law sounds crazy. A baby needs to be held. Once the baby gets older and learns to communicate, that's when spoiling can happen, but not as a baby.

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