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[–] englishwebster ago 

Well I'm already married so there's that.

What I see is the end result - people such as yourself (I may presume, but could be wrong) choosing to reject a partner based on her past choices which don't materially impact the present.

Its one thing to try to hook up with a girl who has a horrible tooth-to-tattoo ratio and 2 kids, another to accidentally meet a waitress at a gym who got around in her early 20's and now, like most men who go through that phase, wants to settle down.

To blanket reject all of them means you will either die alone or make a desperate choice later on in life. Either way its regret.

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[–] HiJoker ago 

"Sir, would you like to order before you start your next set on the weight machine?"

"Yes, I'll take a double cheese burger, fries and a large chocolate shake."

Zing, that was what went through my head along with 'wtf kind of gym...?' for a second.

I married. Been there, done that. She's dead now. So I've missed the whole have kids thing, we didn't have any. I've been around, seen things, seen how women are from not only personal experience, but from watching everyone I know struggle. Then there's the really nice and good one you see, but the guy she's with is a complete fucking whore dog loser. I've seen that too many times as well. /sigh

There was a time, believe it or not that many met in high school, graduate, get married, remain married for 50+ years, have a fuckton of kids, grand kids, etc. I'm so sad for all of us that those days are gone. At least you never knew what it's like, you can choke down these fucked up conditions, tell yourself enough bullshit to get you by until things blow up.

I for one can't compromise. I'll never betray myself, my standards and the memories of when it was good. I got used to the idea of dying alone a long time ago. Fuck 'em all. I don't need any of them. I got a dog for company. That's the old man way. Better no relationship than a fucked in the head one.

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[–] englishwebster ago 

Im sorry for your loss.

Honest question - if a good woman is so hard to find what do you think about good men? Aren't they just as rare from the woman's perspective? Are we not also partly to blame?

As an aside, I know of many marriages from high school and none of the succeeded for the very reason you decry - they started too soon and wanted to live a little first.