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[–] AngryAlmond 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago  (edited ago)

Spoke to my fat mother about her weight today. She claims to be doing the best she can at life ( she as severe injuries), yet still won't put her fork down, and I'm sick of it. Her responses go along the lines of "I hope it gives me a heart attack" "I've given up, everyone has a breaking point" "Thanks for making me feel even worse than I already felt AngryAlmond" "I have no other pleasures in life, and you want to take this one thing away from me" "How would you do berrer handling the immense amounts of pain I'm in?" "You have no idea how much agony I am in every day" and, of course "My thyroid." (Which I called her out on as being an excuse).

She struggles with major back problems due to her injuries. News flash Mom: Being a the size of an overgrown elephant ISN'T HELPING. I am SO SICK of her going on and on about how she hates her life and how there is nothing to be done about the pain, and that's she's doing her best when she's shovelling shit into her mouth. No Mom, you're not. YES, you would still be in IMMENSE pain even if you lost weight. YES, your injuries would still be there, and life would still suck. But you don't get to bitch about it all the time if you're actively making it worse. Just because you did your therapies ten years ago doesn't mean you've done everything you can. Her outlook is basically "because I've done a lot, I can give up."

She thinks that because she puts effort into our family (which she does) that she has a free pass to moan about how awful things are and how much she hates herself. Just because you try hard and excel in some areas DOES NOT mean that you get to give up in others. It would be like if I thought that since I did such a nice job brushing my hair, that I didn't need to clip my toenails.

"I know I'm not doing a good enough job." You know what Mom, you're right. And I'm going to keep calling you out on your crap. Hating yourself doesn't give you a pass.

It is on days like today when I can't wait to be 18 and get the hell out of here.

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[–] Unsung_Heroes_again ago 

Cant save people from themselves. Theres always one more excuse for why we are doing what we are doing.

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[–] Densz 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Does she get the concept of net pain? Ie, something can cause pain to go down a little temporarily, then up a lot, permanently, thus increasing her total amount of pain?

How would you do berrer handling the immense amounts of pain I'm in?

Why, I'd stab myself with a pen to give myself even more pain, of course. That's just as logical as putting on fat to give myself even more pain. Seriously, I'd take a hot bath or do just about anything that's physically pleasurable. Being fat is the opposite of physically pleasurable. Fat people really are like drug addicts. They don't get that they have a future self.

"Thanks for making me feel even worse than I already felt AngryAlmond"

Emotional abuse. It's all your fault for making her feel bad! Her feelings are 100% caused by you! I hate people like that. Feelings are pretty much 100% under our control. They're one of the only things we control. The fact that someone cries about not getting their way always makes me hate them even more. Like, they're trying to shovel it on you.

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[–] PaulNeriAustralia 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

talking about the great outdoors...there's a bird sanctuary near my place but the signs say "no bicycles". So strictly speaking you can't even walk your bicycle in the place. But today in the sanctuary I encountered two very large people pushing a very large pram containing a very large baby! So I've complained to the Authorities that the situation is unfair.

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[–] Unsung_Heroes_again 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

It's the only way to do it! I plan all my vacations around hiking or marathons. I love to joke "I am more active on vacation than most people are at work"

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[–] mmmmdonuts 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

I'm jelly.

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[–] mmmmdonuts 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

HI hun 😍 You look beautifulπŸ’‹πŸ’‹ today! I was just wonderin that since you're so πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ’‹freakin beautiful that you would like to try my shitty πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ weight loss shake! πŸ₯›πŸ₯›πŸ₯› since you gotta stay fluffy β€πŸ§‘πŸ’œπŸ’”πŸ±β€πŸ‰in those Alaska winters! if you don't then you don't support single mothersπŸ‘©β€πŸ¦°πŸ‘ΆπŸ‘ΆπŸ‘ΆπŸ‘ΆπŸ‘ΆπŸ‘ΆπŸ‘ΆπŸ‘Ά and are a horrible person supporting BIG BUIZNESS πŸ€‘πŸ€‘πŸ€¬πŸ€¬

Seriously tho Greffedu you can add me on Insta if you ever get it πŸ₯πŸ₯πŸ₯ (that's donut I swear)

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[–] Unsung_Heroes_again 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

People I love and need from here are on Ig. The back up has always been IG. If that one cuts. Multiple people I have met through here and trust have my cellphone. Multiple people also have my cell if this goes to shit. We long ago decided that a core of us will always survive, we've met and we will always keep it going.

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[–] HateCumbuckets 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

Still the same number? I've got it somewhere...

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[–] DorothyMantooth 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

I tried to log into Instagram yesterday/the day before (I assume that's what you mean by "Ig?") and it told me my account has been disabled for "violating their terms." And it told me I can request a file with all my activity...which I, confused, did...because I had no activity at all with that account; I'm pretty sure I used my secondary FB account to create a login just so I could look at a friend's pictures (I don't have an Insta account). The files are empty.

So how did I violate their terms by doing nothing? And why won't they tell me what I did or give me an option to fix it or whatever? I'm seriously confused.

Any thoughts or advice?

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[–] Carsandsarcasm [S] 0 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago 

That's not a bad idea. I wouldn't mind a casual discussion chat either. We could post showerthoughts and have live general discussion. If you want to create a FPH Discord or similar, I will put it in the sidebar and you can have custom flair. If you don't want to do it, someone else can volunteer and you can both have custom flair. This is the kind of contribution that I think earns it. I will do it if absolutely necessary, but I am responsible for way too much stuff on this sub already.

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[–] Unsung_Heroes_again 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago  (edited ago)

I think @rokuah or our verified space marine has a discord already up and running if you need advice. They opened it up when iG started banning us for shitlording

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