[–] SurfinMindWaves ago
No, but I've not asked her for specifics about what she has said to her about it.
[–] 0fsgivin 0 points 4 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago (edited ago)
Well, im sure it does happen. But that is absolutely the exception not the rule.
And in most cases were dad seems to be doing great. The thing they fail at is not policing what the mom is supporting and sometimes the mom is giving support without the dad even knowing.
My dad was great. But the one thing he failed at was not standing up to my mother. He was classic boomer that thought he had to defer to his wife when it came to his kids. And now neither me nor my sister have been married or have kids.
And most people were surprised to learn my mom was abusive. People had no idea until she finally attacked my uncle's truck with a hatchet.
[–] fishmantis ago
You can be a good, kind, hardworking man that loves his family and does everything for them, but that doesn't mean they will respect you. Does his wife respect him, or is it an "equal" relationship?
[–] SurfinMindWaves ago
That's hard to judge since couples tend to be different in public than at home. They are both hardcore bible believers though so I think ultimately she is "submissive" to him. I've learned over the years (the hard way) that people are rarely what they appear to be on the surface.
[–] worthlesshope 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Probably rebellion.. combined with learning from her peers. I'm more of the belief that kids don't really learn from their family, but learn from their community. If their community doesn't respect family then they wont respect family, she also probably got the idea in her head to really show how much she hates how she grew up she will date black men to piss off her parents. With her parents continuing to be "against" the idea only proves that she was right. Eventually it becomes like a fetish.
If she's still a teen probably the best option for her is to move to an exclusively white area, with white peers who she can see as role models. But the other problem which can't be solved is media, luckily she sounds like an idiot so it might be easy to control what type of media she sees as well.