[–] HamAversion ago
confusing an ED (however doubtful those claims might be) with self-discipline is peak delusion.
[–] TheStapler ago
I wonder what she’s at now—300? If so how about doing us a favor and losing 300 pounds? Plants need compost.
[–] Carsandsarcasm 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
If it was possible for you to gain 50lb, you never had a restrictive ED. Even the most recovered people don't get fat. That shit stays with you, it just gets quieter.
[–] Carsandsarcasm 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
Not in my experience. I still get that reaction to lose weight as a solution to any bad feelings, I still have that sensitivity to feeling full or bloated, I still see thinspo and want to go down that rabbit hole, and I still have a harsh definition of what is too fat. It really is a lot easier, though, and I want to make that clear. It's not that overpowering compulsion anymore, it's more like an echo from past, ingrained habits. You can live with it without much trouble, but I don't think anyone really loses that voice completely.
You can look at this positively, however, for two reasons. Firstly, what it means is you shouldn't hold yourself to a standard that says you should act and feel like you never had it. The bar for recovery can actually be a lot lower. You only need to get to the point where it isn't controlling your life and that is a lot easier than attempting to remove every thought like it never happened. AN is a habit as much as anything. You can break habits, but the thing about habits is they are ... well habits like muscle memory and you don't lose it totally. I'm not suffering anymore, I do have some hangovers from it, but I am healthy and I live a healthy lifestyle. You don't need to be perfectly healthy, just not actively killing yourself.
Secondly, and this was what really helped me keep the motivation to recover: you don't have to get fat. You can maintain a healthy BMI that is still on the low end, you don't have to have a goal that says you eat three meals a day, you are allowed to still avoid various foods, and you are even allowed to fast. All of these behaviours can be healthy and they let you hold onto that need for thinness as a sort of compromise. I know it doesn't sound right and it's a bit like cheating, I just see it as being realistic. I will want to be very thin forever, so instead of forcing myself to maintain a BMI of 24 that will torture me and constantly drive me to relapse so I can pretend I am proving I can do it, I maintain a BMI closer to 20 which is very much still in the healthy range and also lets me be thin, just not crazy thin. Getting through recovery involved a lot of meal skipping when I knew that forcing something down would do more harm than good. It's incremental, it's doing what you can when you can, and it's getting there slowly and imperfectly. This attitude of force-feeding yourself to gain 30lb and then instantly maintaining 3 meals and snacks is black and white, extreme thinking. You can't be expected to stop your entire life and change everything immediately because you will relapse 100%. It's ironic because so much of AN is perfectionist thinking and then you are held to a perfect standard of recovery as if that's realistic. The fundamental idea you are trying to break is that you don't have to be perfect. It's okay to just be okay.
It took me 3 or 4 years to get there. PM me if you want to talk.
[–] PenguinOrgy 0 points 5 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago
They do have eating disorders.
Just not the one they're insinuating.
[–] FlashFlare ago (edited ago)
Let’s call out some bullshit. It’s fun.
Phobia? BS. I bet the ham got advice from a doctor to lose weight to be healthy, and immediately threw a fit and claims that actual facts are “fat phobia”, and their “fat phobia” is just a fake problem all hams like to claim is real so they have an excuse to whine and play the victim.
First, you won’t last a few minutes before putting your hand in the mayo jar again. Next, if you want to lose weight and you complain about being fat and how you don’t want to eat, there is a simple solution to begin with: STOP EATING, DUMBASS.
Also as someone with an actual ED, it is so obvious that butterball is faking. Also all the support forums out there are plagued with lying bags of lard like that. Then they like to pretend to be the sickest for attention and post false bs all the time. They really ruin everything.