[–] 18686375? [S] 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
Truth. Women who are pursuing a traditional lifestyle need to know that interior decorating is not a trad value. Spending on those new curtains and new furniture isn't money spent wisely. Either make new curtains yourself or find a less expensive route. Yes, try to make as beautiful home as possible but do so without spending much. Our homes do not need to look like showrooms. Clean, tidy, and comfortable is good enough.
[–] Palindromedan 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
This was timely for me, I got a scolding a few months back for getting a little too caught up on shopping culture. I took it to heart. It’s hard to resist when you have a new house but it’s the right thing to do.
[–] AR47 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
I never got to meet my wife’s father. I did speak with him many times on the phone before he passed.
He died of bone cancer, but it didn’t slow him down in life. He explained on our last conversation that he wanted to raise a woman to be a good wife and an excellent companion.
He did a good job I must say.
[–] Hippie_Housewife ago
Interesting list!
"That having a man make his own meals was emasculating considering how much he worked to earn the money for groceries."
That's kinda hilarious though. ;) Emasculating? I would think it's the opposite: a man who is not even capable of making himself a sandwich seems to me to be rather weak. Being able to feed yourself is a basic life skill that every person, male and female alike, should be able to do. Obviously if your wife is a homemaker and you as a man work full time, it makes far more sense for her to cook because she's home and she has all kinds of time for it. But to say that it is emasculating seems a bit outrageous to me. My husband always gets his own breakfasts because he has a specific way he likes it made and doesn't see the need to have me make it for him unless he's not well. My part in it is to make sure we don't run out of coffee, bread, peanut butter, etc. He mostly makes his own lunches too - again, my part is making sure there are leftovers in the fridge or other ingredients he can use to make what he likes. He brews beer and lately he's branching out into other fermenting/preserving hobbies: pickled eggs, sourdough bread starter (and loaves! he made his first loaf this week and it was pretty good), sauerkraut. None of this makes him less of a man. My dad is the same and always was...mom packs him lunches on his work days but he always gets his own breakfasts, and when he's off work he gets his own lunches as well. Sometimes he even cooks dinner. It's an important skill for a man because he may not get married right off the bat when he's young, and even if he does there will be times when his wife is sick or recovering from childbirth or something and is unable to make food.
My dad didn't do much to prepare me specifically for being a wife. But he did prepare me for life in general. He taught me how to take risks and how to evaluate which risks are worth taking and which ones are just plain stupid. He told me that he'd treat me like an adult when I started acting like one, which had a big influence on me as a teenager and helped me try harder. He taught me to have a solid work ethic, to not be afraid of getting my hands dirty or DIYing a project. He taught me how to ride a bike, swim, drive a car, paddle a canoe, sail a small boat, pitch a tent, light a fire, ski, skate, and so much more. And he modeled for me what a good husband and father looks like. Because of the way he treated my mother and my siblings and I, I learned to expect a man to treat me with respect and love but also have the stones to tell me the hard truths I sometimes need to hear. Because of his parenting skills I made it to adulthood without any "daddy issues" - he was always there for me and always involved in what I was doing. His influence shaped me and I owe him so much.
[–] clamhurt_legbeard 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
True shit. You know how much money we started saving by switching from fast food to bringing lunch to work?
$10-15 isn't much. But multiply by ten and suddenly is $150 per paycheck.
[–] 18686197? [S] 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
It sure does add up. Same for yoga classes at $12 a session. I use a free yoga app now and seldom go to classes.