[–] Patti_McGreen ago
At 33 you ought to have enough sense to realize that this "girl" is not a keeper! At 37 she has cemented her habits and lifestyle and will most likely never improve her circumstances. Sounds like you need to work on yourself. Your list of options proves you're not ready for an honest relationship. Best wishes.
[–] SolomonPapermaster [S] ago
Good, someone has a point. Everyone else is telling me to run. At least you have the sense to tell me I am not exactly a catch.
[–] 475677 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
She romanticizes that life and the second she gets it she'll fucking bail because it won't be as she imagined. Also she's used up biologically speaking so you have absolutely nothing to gain having a relationship with her. Personally I wouldn't even friendzone a person like her as it's only going to lead to misery. Don't even fuck her either, help stop the cycle of degeneracy now and find yourself a woman you can think of as an ideal wife.
[–] SolomonPapermaster [S] ago
But, don't women in general find you more attractive when you are fucking other women? Pheromones and what not.
[–] SolomonPapermaster [S] 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Option 6 is what my common sense tells me, but it's not that easy. As soon as she calls me I turn into a happy idiot. I hate it.
You are weak. You are ruled by your emotions instead of your rational judgment. People make choices about relationships with other people by the way they "feel" when they are around the other person. But feelings are seldom based in sound judgment and they are often fleeting. (Salesmen take advantage of people's feelings by playing up to people's temporary sentiments.) But marriage and relationships are HARD WORK. The happy idiot feelings fade very quickly. That is why people get divorced: the magic wears off and they don't want to do the WORK. My advice is to RUN. Think with your rational mind and don't be a weak slave. (and stop looking at porn and masturbating)
[–] RealBiggly ago
37 means if she has kids they're probably damaged, and certainly she doesn't have long left. By 40 it's probably best not.
As well as not having kids she'll hit the other wall, where she loses interest in sex. You want to marry it, commit half your everything, for maybe another 10 or 15 years max of occasional banging?
Everything you've said regarding the red flags means you already know this is a really bad idea.
I follow a simple set of rules. One of those rules is 'Don't make stupid mistakes on purpose'.
Follow that rule and get the heck away from this thot, before she sucks you down to her level. You're 32, you should be courting or banging 25 to 30 year olds, not a 37 yr old thot with issues.