[–] VandalayIndustries 0 points 7 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago
Girl seems like an emotional black hole wanting to suck the life out of people.
Or, she just needs someone to give her constant reassurance, which is the same thing. Some guys can do it without tuning out completely, most can’t.
[–] MortonLoothorKodos 0 points 5 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago
Don't ever tell women to take the path a man has taken.
Yes you should probably guide her again. Did she vow at the wedding "til death do us part"? Because if she did you should remind her and ask her what exactly she thinks a vow is. It's meant to be a sacred promise of intent, she's not supposed to give up as soon as it suits her. If she felt like leaving things open she should have reconsidered before making the vow and claiming to dedicate herself to this guy in the first place.
She's probably fucked/fucking/wanting to fuck some other guy at this point, partially thanks to your advice. I know some would say nobody's responsible for her behavior and decisions but herself, but we all know that's not really true. A woman is merely a product of the men in her life, and that means you combined with the soyboy she married combined with whatever kind of father she has/had.
You gave her bad direction. Also you wanna fuck her and should probably just do it already.
[–] Trasheconomy [S] ago
Yeah, I'll own up, that was bad advice to her. I assumed too much. There's nothing I can fix but I do need to give her honest and better advice.
[–] 17689232? 0 points 4 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago
She says he doesn’t put any effort into stuff. I asked what does that mean? And she told me that she’s frustrated that he doesn’t make plans for her like surprise birthdays or Holliday’s like she does because she is a planner
That's because he's a man. Men don't tend to do this kind of thing unless specifically told it's important.
My friend looks up to me and I feel like I haven’t lead her down a good path
You have a responsibility as a friend now to do the right thing which is to not support her behavior. She needs to be told in no uncertain terms that she needs to pack her bags and go home and make a go of her marriage. She's acting like a child and you can't stand by and watch and support that. If it were me and she continued down this path, I'd end the friendship.
[–] stillhavemyforeskin 0 points 4 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago (edited ago)
I feel like getting married and not having children IMMEDIATELY is a mistake. I understand the financial burden and people wanting to be as prepared as possible, but all of the happiest married people I know in my life didn't plan their lives like this. In fact, a lot of them had children before they got married. Children are the glue that holds the relationship together. Quite frankly, I don't understand the point of being married if children aren't involved.
On top of that, it's flawed logic to think: "I'll get a divorce, date around and try "some" new guys, and eventually settle down for good with one of them." Why not settle down with the guy you're currently with? I imagine it's because she simply wants to relive the honey moon phase (that initial dopamine rush of love) over and over again. This is all thanks to our clown world feminism movement and the brain washing of our women. Men are willing to devote their lives to a single woman, but women on the other hand have been taught to break this oath, break this sacred bond, and go do what... sleep around? How empowering.
Anyway, tell her to make babies and stop being a slut. Tell her husband that if he actually loves her and this whole thing isn't some charade than he better man the fuck up and not throw this away.
Also, you sure you're not in love with her?
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[–] Trasheconomy [S] 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
Haha “take buddy holly with you” made me chuckle. But what’s wrong with pen pals? It’s funny how all of you that have replied said she’s cheating though. I think so too. Like, absolutely emotionally I can say like %95 percent certain sleeping around too.
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[–] Battlefat ago
This is solid advice because it makes the good people in this situation, the men, alienate the manipulator, the woman, to the benefit of all based on the facts at hand @Trasheconomy