[–] shoutout_to_burritos ago (edited ago)
FFS at her for not being flexible and understanding people have different personalities and strengths and weaknesses. Maybe a book like "5 love languages" would have helped.
[–] Trasheconomy [S] ago
Right?! And she says she “needs someone who can give her back what she gives out” and I’m just like wtf?! What kind of relationship is two people giving each other the same thing?! Who gives you what you don’t have?
[–] shoutout_to_burritos ago (edited ago)
If you have a chance, do pass along this "tough love" (not necessarily mine but I mean in general) advice.
[–] 17689232? 0 points 4 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago
She says he doesn’t put any effort into stuff. I asked what does that mean? And she told me that she’s frustrated that he doesn’t make plans for her like surprise birthdays or Holliday’s like she does because she is a planner
That's because he's a man. Men don't tend to do this kind of thing unless specifically told it's important.
My friend looks up to me and I feel like I haven’t lead her down a good path
You have a responsibility as a friend now to do the right thing which is to not support her behavior. She needs to be told in no uncertain terms that she needs to pack her bags and go home and make a go of her marriage. She's acting like a child and you can't stand by and watch and support that. If it were me and she continued down this path, I'd end the friendship.
[–] Trasheconomy [S] 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Divorced as fuuuuuuuck. Hates her dad. Mother is the one she went to after starting to question marriage.
He let her go away to strange lands on her own and now she wants to ride strange new cock too.
Should have put a baby in her instead if he wanted to keep her.
You need to tell her that she must go home, fix her marriage and adjust her expectations.
Then you need to not be her friend anymore unless it is indirectly through a friendship with her husband. You and her shouldn't be discussing her marriage or having those kind of conversations behind his back.
None of you have conducted yourselves in a manner worthy of respect.
[–] Crinkus 1 point 0 points 1 point (+1|-1) ago
Your friend is a retard and was impossible to save, don't let this weight on you