[–] flyawayhigh 3 points 3 points 6 points (+6|-3) ago (edited ago)
Never mind. The statement is self-contradictory. Logic time.
If lesbians are not born with sexual orientation, then sexual orientation is 'learned' so to speak.
If sexual orientation is 'learned,' then it is not born-in.
If sexual orientation is not born-in, then heterosexual orientation is not born in.
All sexual orientation is learned. LOL
Yes, this is the place where a word applies: nonsense.
Edit: I'm not one of those downVoaters, but I do agree that
if you actually had anything to base your dislike on other than "feels" you wouldn't need to rely on mute downvotes.
However, I don't agree with
Mute downvotes essentially mean I'm right. Think about it.
I am thinking about it and I don't think there is any logical rule that all uncontested statements are true. In fact, I'm pretty sure there is not. Positive really. :D
[–] zedoktar 1 point 1 point 2 points (+2|-1) ago
I think its a social construct. Sexual orientation is born in, to a degree. Some people are going to be purely straight or purely gay, a lot will be on the spectrum. Women who float around the spectrum are way more accepted than men. That acceptance is a social construct which is rigid. Plenty of women consider bi men tainted, and I have heard that gay men often have major disdain for bi guys, telling them to pick a side or that they are just partly in the closet and need to be all the way gay. Women don't have that same pressure. Most guys seems love lipstick lesbians, (two chicks at the same time dude!) or consider it not real sex if a dick isn't involved. Lesbian women might be just as accepting, I'm not really sure on that one.
[–] o_V_o 1 point -1 points 0 points (+0|-1) ago
I am thinking about it and I don't think there is any logical rule that all uncontested statements are true. In fact, I'm pretty sure there is not.
Forgot this part: I'm glad you said something, but maybe try not to focus on the things that are obviously there to goad people in to responding. This also seems to be a tactic of people without any real argument.
[–] o_V_o 1 point -1 points 0 points (+0|-1) ago (edited ago)
If sexual orientation is not born-in, then heterosexual orientation is not born in.
No one is saying it is... in fact, I'm of the opinion that bi-sexuality is the default for mammals.
Bisexual Species: Unorthodox Sex in the Animal Kingdom
(disregard the lack of CSS formatting, it's a cached version of Richard Dawkins' old site... but it's the only place to find the entire article without a paywall) EDIT: ok... I guess not.. will try to find a different link - which sucks because that was the only place I could find the whole article last time this came up)
individual animals generally cannot be classified as gay or straight: an animal that engages in a same-sex flirtation or partnership does not necessarily shun heterosexual encounters. Rather many species seem to have ingrained homosexual tendencies that are a regular part of their society. That is, there are probably no strictly gay critters, just bisexual ones. "Animals don't do sexual identity. They just do sex," says sociologist Eric Anderson of the University of Bath in England.
People seem to forget that humans are animals. We weren't "designed".... there are very few things that are "fixed" or inherent.. the only thing "life" cares about is what's advantageous.
Can't get into this too much more (really just copying old comments I made), I'm at work and everything I would need to look up would.. well, I'd rather not have to explain my browser history if someone asks (mostly because it will become glaringly obvious that I'm not working if anyone notices..lol)
[–] Spacehuman 1 point 9 points 10 points (+10|-1) ago
I think men are generally 'born that way'. Women tend to have a sexual preference - which is fluid. Man tend to have a sexual orientation - which is rigid. Women do 'switch teams' whereas men are not wired to do so.
[–] cynoclast 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago (edited ago)
I think women are just prettier, even to other women. They haven't been called 'the fairer sex' for eons for no reason.
[–] o_V_o 1 point 0 points 1 point (+1|-1) ago
I think both are fluid, but men are socialized to be rigid, women aren't.... and it goes all the way back to the simple fact that homosexuality in women isn't a threat to the population the same way it is in men (btw, that's why the church was against it... fewer birth means fewer followers)... lesbians can always be over-powered when reproduction is absolutely necessary or vacant uteri are in short demand. On the other hand, with exception to something like raping them in their sleep, gay men aren't much use in this regard.
[–] ForgotMyName 2 points 3 points 5 points (+5|-2) ago
Strange, now that you mentioned it, I've had the same experience. Anecdotally, the gay guys that I've known since they were kids were pretty gay when they were kids. The lesbians, were all over the place. Girls that only dated girls in high school are married to guys now. Girls that I'd never have guessed were gay are now lesbians.
Not even going to pretend like this is remotely scientific, but it's just interesting that my own observations happen to align with it.
[–] Broc_Lia 2 points 0 points 2 points (+2|-2) ago
Wut?