[–] vastrightwing 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
Imagine if everyone simply took responsibility for their children... shocking.
[–] Sarcastatron_9000 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
Yes. What's the point in having a child if you aren't at least willing to stay home and raise them? Get a dog instead! Raising kids is hard work and it takes a lot of time and energy...but it's so worthwhile. And the rewards are plentiful too, not just in the time you get to spend with them and the friendship that develops over the years, but also in the ways your hard work shows up as they grow. It's awesome.
[–] LexOrandiLexCredendi 0 points 4 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago
Not only that, but it's rare that having both husband and wife working can even cover day care plus gas to and from work and all the other expenses that come with having a job.
Tack onto that all that you save by having someone at home to cook and maybe even have a garden and it just makes little financial sense.
On the other hand, if you're one of those oddball couples where each one makes a 6 figure salary and can't be bothered to stay at home, then you're just a selfish asshole.
[–] ThisIsMyRealName 0 points 5 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago
A couple of years ago, shortly after we had our second child I convinced my wife to quit her job and stay home with the little ones. She didn't want to at first, because she really enjoyed her work. Scheduling conflicts arose since I work full time, and it was either her job or day care, and day care would have cost her whole paycheck anyway.
Fast forward back to the present, and she's never been happier in her life. The kids are doing great too. They love their mom so much.
[–] ProgNaziGator [S] 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago (edited ago)
Thanks for your story. Glad it worked out.
My wife had a hard time leaving her career behind. Multuple times I have come home from work early to discover she's been working and has the kids in a care facility. Essentially she has refused to be a stay at home Mom. She is not even cautious about the place or people. Basically toddlers that cant talk have to come home with bruises and explain to her they are being abused for it to register. Being withdrawn and not themselves, reacting when certain kids names are said. Etc. None if it registers..
After a 2 years of this I finally left my career and became a stay bv at home Dad. Because she was willing to lie and deceive there was nothing I could do to keep her from doing it again. I am not well equipped to be a stay at home Dad. It's hard on everyone. Money is tight without my income. But the alternative was not acceptable. Hug your wife tight, you've got a good one.
Of course everyone in our church, family etc now think I'm a jobless loser. We were married over 10 years before we had kids, she never stopped bitching about how she wanted to stop working and raise kids. More the fool am I.
Sorry to open up, just hope you appreciate what you have. Jew feminazism have ruined lots of good women and caused family misery.
[–] callthehambulance 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Hey;
I've never been in your position and can't empathise with it, but I wanted to tell you I really respect and admire what you did there. you are the complete antithesis of a jobless loser. You're an incredible person and as a kid I would have loved to have had a Dad who would have made such a choice for me and my siblings.
[–] ThisIsMyRealName 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
I guess it kind of helped that my wife didn't really have a career. She was a key holder, sort of a team lead I guess, at Dollar General. If she had stuck with it she would have been promoted to assistant manager, and I'm certain eventually store manager. So maybe it could have been a career.
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. It breaks my heart a little that your wife seems to either care so little about the well being of her husband and children, or she just doesn't understand the negative effects on you all for her choices. Hopefully the situation improves at some point, but I'm not sure how you will get there.
Sorry to open up, just hope you appreciate what you have.
No problem man, we're fellow goats. Open up whenever you feel like it. And I do appreciate what I have, very much. This is far and away a better situation for me than I ever imagined I would have.
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[–] yellowrosegal-eliz2 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
I agree... Put my career behind me after the birth of my first child. I will admit I tried to convince my company to let me telecommute, as it's very difficult operating off one salary, but they were not comfortable with anyone telecommuting - even programmers. Missed daily adult interaction, but wouldn't trade the time I had with my kids when they were young. So we moved to an area of the country where it would be easier to operate on one salary & I went back to my college penny-pincher ways. No more vacations other than camping, though we did take one big vacay after we relocated for a job during the recession & sold our home (Maui). Gave me the travel bug again...