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[–] Morrotbotz [S] 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

Yep, that tracks. So the real question is.... when do you make the move?

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[–] Broc_Lia 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

Ideally late in the evening so she doesn't have to deal with you for very long if she says no.

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[–] imvii 0 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago 

I flirted with the bartender. She asked me out. We ended up married and together for almost 20 years.

I let HER make the decision to move beyond simple flirtation at the bar. She was working. I was drinking. I didn't want to come off as "that guy" but I let her know I was interested and available in a non-douchey way. I figured if she was interested, she'd let me know. She did.

Also, I should note I didn't just go into this bar. I had been there a couple times before and she knew my face at that point.

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[–] Morrotbotz [S] 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

awe

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[–] fieryaries44 ago 

yes, yes, a thousand times YES!!! This is precisely how to do it, pay attention everyone.

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[–] Mal_monster 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

As a bartender for 5 and 1/2 years now I can say that I get hit on a lot, but I take it in stride. My job is to serve delicious drinks and facilitate a good time by all. With that said - I've been hit on, asked out, received numbers on check stubs, had a person grab me and attempt to kiss me once, and even been proposed to at my bar. Does it change my attitude about serving? Well, let's just say I stay on the closed end of the bar when certain people come in ;)

Go ahead and flirt with whomever you want. Ask em out. The worst they can say is no. If they are good at compartmentalizing you won't have a problem if they decline an invitation to hang out. Odds are you might just find a great friend. I've found a lot of mine that way.

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[–] hotelbrowanda 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

As a general rule, yes it is. The thing with bartender ladies is if they're attractive and working at a busy spot, they get hit on constantly. You know this which is why you even ask the question.

That becomes the problem then if you really are interested in one of them because you are there enough to get to know them and it then becomes a 'don't shit where you eat situation'. Things might not work out with her then you have to go find an all new place to drown those sorrows.

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[–] Morrotbotz [S] 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

I have also learned that a vast majority of people working in services tend to drink a lot and do drugs. (not all of them) I got this one girls number one time but she was nuts and had bad idea written all over her. I have also noticed places that have all female bar staff tend to have rules from the owners one of them being "don't date the patrons"

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[–] fieryaries44 ago 

yes very true, we break those rules sometimes though, you just need to be worth us losing that gig.

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