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[–] DashingLeech ago 

There are two components to my answer.

Why do I feel like everyone's judging me or like I'm a failure?

I think you need to separate "is it wrong" from "nobody will judge". Hey, if it's what you really want to do then so be it. Why do you care what other people think? However, people will judge you and they have the right to do so. Most people value ambition and working toward better things. There are good reasons for that, whether cultural or evolutionary psychology. You can do what you like as long as you aren't harming anybody, but you can't expect other people to care about the fun you are having.

The other component is informed consent. That is, do you really know the costs and risks of what you are doing? Certainly the drink and drugs are higher risk for both health/life and ending up in jail, but I'm sure you know that, even if only in the back of your mind.

There is also a significant opportunity cost. That is, if you are spending all that time just "having fun" without growing your potential (education, training, skills, intellect, etc.), it permanently reduces and delays your career path, income, promotions, seniority, retirement, retirement savings, wealth, and general options in life. In essence, you are robbing your future self by making your future life harder so that you can "have fun" now. That is, of course, in your current self's best interest, but even your current self must have some foresight that you will eventually have to live a harder life because of your current choices.

This is generally why most people will tend to judge you as a failure, because they understand that self-investment payoff and opportunity costs. People who make the choices you are making also tend to draw on taxpayer programs later as they struggle to get by, having not invested in themselves earlier in life. Perhaps you already know that, but many young people don't.

That doesn't make it a choice between having fun now or no fun. Rather, there is an optimal path of balancing fun now with investment in yourself now, such that you can have the most possible enjoyment of your life as a whole. You seem to have chosen screwing over your later life to enjoy it more now. Others choose too heavily on investing themselves and never get around to enjoying life, or not until much of their life has passed. There is an optimum balance.

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[–] weabot ago 

No but don't expect your middle-aged and old life to not suffer (a lot) from it.

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[–] pm_me_ur_bewbs ago 

You can, but you'll hit a point in your life where you'll realize that it was only great occasionally. At that point, you'll want to do other great things and realize that a lot of opportunities are no longer there.

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[–] shorternet ago 

Frankie Ballard has some words of advice regarding this: How am I ever gonna get to be old and wise if I ain't never young and crazy?

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[–] skinbearxett ago 

Nope, there is nothing inherently wrong with it, but you may regret it if your values change, which they likely will.

I would recommend a moment of introspection. Evaluate what you think is important, then look at what you can do to achieve those important things. If something helps, do more, if something hinders, axe that shit. You will soon find that drinking to excess is pretty much boring, but hanging out with people remains, drugs can be quite shitty, but a casual use of something may be fun if done safely, getting laid is fun, but having someone you can share stuff with is better, or your values may land somewhere else compared with that and you will go get fucked up every weekend and just work your ass of during the week to pay for it.

Either way, it is your choice, but I would caution you to actually think about it rather than just doing what everyone else is.

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[–] OutofCoffee ago 

Uhhhhhhhhh noooooooooo but yeeeessssss

Look man the problem with doing all of that is it makes you appear as though you're a waste of life. Sorry to say it but: appearances are everything.

And yeah you can put off college and go anytime, but honestly you say no now you're going to say no then, you say you won't but you will, and you'll keep saying I can do it later, until it's later and you're a alcoholic coked out 40 year old with 0 life ambition. You'll realize what a piece of shit your life is and you'll probably eat a bullet. I'm morbid as fuck but there's a lot of truth to it (i.e. wife's uncle)

So take a year off have some fun, try not to get yourself killed.

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[–] FrogUppercut ago 

It's worth it to live (sort of) haphazardly, but always be mindful of the consequences. I know those were conflicting advice but it'll make sense when you get older.

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[–] Orthum ago 

To me if that is all you want out of life, then please do. But that is all you will get out of life.
Just be aware drugs, coke and alcohol do long term damage. You won't feel it till your 40. By then you'll feel like you fucking 80 and wanting to die.
If your okay with that, and the potential risks of it all, then I see no problem with it. Its your life and your choice. Just don't do something stupid and fuck up stuff for other people.

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