[–] LochNessMonsta ago
I never really did.
I would love to stop giving a shit, but somehow I do care what others think of me. It really depends on how close these people are to me, but I've never been able to completely not give a shit.
Maybe I will get to that point later in life.
i was 12. teacher had prepared a map of the states with numbers on them for a test. this was a transparency on an overhead projector so everyone in the class could see it. she had written the numbers with a fluorescent marker and i couldn't read them from where i was sitting. I complained, asked if I could just look at the transparency directly or something, she basically told me tough shit, nobody else is complaining go back to your seat. i completely failed that test. not sure if that was the exact moment it happened or not but I really stopped giving a fuck about school after that.
There came a time in my life when I became respectable. I spoke the truth, worked hard, negotiated in good faith, and helped build others up along with myself. I changed my behavior 180 degrees from what it once was, and the way people treated me did not change One Fucking IOTA. I realized that people's childhood indoctrination, natural biases, selfishness and bigotry rule the day. Your success and flourishing are completely at the whims of those who surround you, and their approval of you is directly proportional to how much you conform to the norm that you find yourself surrounded by, and those in power you know within it. Competency, trustworthiness, education, productivity, results?...these things barely matter if at all.
[–] Caboose_Calloway ago
Fairly recently actually. A few kicks from life thought me that not only other people's but mine as well do not matter in the slightest.
[–] anasiansporkchop ago
I think it was my first year of college. I realized that the petty shit from high school was meaningless and all things that were big to me at the present didn't have any relevance in time. Soon after I learned that, I met my husband and 8.5 years later we are happy and not giving any shits together.
[–] ItsPizzazz 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
When I learned that most people don't actually give a shit about you, they don't even think about you. Only listen to the people that matter.
[–] reg511 2 points -1 points 1 point (+1|-2) ago
I dont have enough cares, to care.