[–] McKenney96 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
When it limited my ability to have fun. I don't remember an exact instance but throught the early part of high school I was so concerned with fitting in that I didn't do what I wanted to do because I was to busy caring what other people thought. Sometime between my Sophomore and Junior years I realized I didn't give a shit.
Those last two years of high school were much better. I had better friends and I had more fun
[–] pm_me_firearms 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
One day, my ex told me she told everyone in our highschool that I raped her. This had gone on for two years before she told me. At the point, I had lost all of my friends, people avoided me, and I was basically exiled. So I realized fuck it, nothing I can do will fix this shit. So I started doing my own thing. 8 years later, still doing my own thing and not giving a shit.
[–] anasiansporkchop ago
I think it was my first year of college. I realized that the petty shit from high school was meaningless and all things that were big to me at the present didn't have any relevance in time. Soon after I learned that, I met my husband and 8.5 years later we are happy and not giving any shits together.
[–] ItsPizzazz 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
When I learned that most people don't actually give a shit about you, they don't even think about you. Only listen to the people that matter.
[–] Caboose_Calloway ago
Fairly recently actually. A few kicks from life thought me that not only other people's but mine as well do not matter in the slightest.
[–] wordsmeanstuff 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
First time was when I was in my late teens. I traveled a lot so giving a shit wasn't advantageous as I'd be leaving in a couple months, things were glorious. Then I landed in one place and it was a shock when I realized I'd been there for a year, then five, and then started giving a shit about what was going on around me and got actively involved in my local community. After being here over a decade I've seen so much of the dark side of people that earlier this year I found all my fucks were gone and I had none left to give. Since I came to that realization, things have been much better. Less stress, more focus on what matters to me and far less life maintenance.
Mark Manson has a great article on The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, I highly recommend it.