[–] SluttyBrownie 0 points 6 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago
Not a relationship but I haven’t seen one of my good friends/massive crush of like 2 years(he started dating a pig meanwhile and I’m no home(barn?)wrecker) in about 6 months.
I saw him last week and he’s on his way to porkville ever since they moved in together like he has gained 20 lbs and got engaged to the beast.
And this is how the one that got away became a dogded bullet
[–] callthehambulance [S] 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
This pork lord he's fallen for, I saw her in the flesh. She's gross. Made me feel way better
[–] SluttyBrownie 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
Remember it’s his loss not yours
If he thinks any real woman (not porker) will touch him with a 10 foot pole after this, he needs a reality check
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[–] callthehambulance [S] 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
You're so right. I feel like I've found my line in the sand on this issue.
Thank you so much
[–] Carsandsarcasm 0 points 14 points 14 points (+14|-0) ago
Fat people like to say that us thinnies have no idea what it's like to lose a lot of weight. They are wrong, however. By dropping this friend, you lost a couple of hundred pounds, and not only that, but every pound he gains from now is a pound you lost. Then consider that every hamplanet friend he gains in his new lifestyle represents yet more hundreds of pounds you successfully avoided. Over a lifetime, we must lose thousands of pounds.
[–] callthehambulance [S] 0 points 7 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago
You're right. Thank you for that, I really appreciate the sentiment.
I think it hurts because we were together a long whiles - nearly three years -and we loved one another deeply. But it turned into something unhealthy. And instead of him being willing or able to work on that, he settled for a shitty unhealthy life.
I guess my perspective on it as a former fat kid is pretty interesting. I can understand what it's like to grow up with shitty habits and how profoundly hard it is to change one's thinking too. It is really difficult and I have a tremendous amount of empathy for anyone who goes through a change like that because it is hard.
But it's possible too. So for me, it was doubly frustrating because he was healthy, developed shitty habits and then, decided he couldn't be arsed to deal with it.
I'm gonna train for that half marathon I want to run. I'm cool with 10ks, and because of the health issues I have (I have a brain tumour) I know I'll need to take it steady and careful on working towards a half marathon. So I'm gonna work on that.
The really pathetic thing is, we live in separate cities and I've been busy with work and Uni, so I really didn't build much of a social life where I live when I moved here last year. But I have a chance to do that now and it'll be easier now I no longer have to worry about going to see him.
Sorry for the rambly shit post, but thank you for the reply.
[–] Carsandsarcasm 0 points 6 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago
I can see you need to talk :)
This is the harsh reality of standing by your beliefs, unfortunately. You are going to lose some friends and make some enemies along the way. Not every relationship you have is going to be around forever and this is the case regardless of anything. However, when it comes to fat hate considering the scale of the obesity epidemic, we are in a very special situation where it is extremely common to lose friends and extremely hard to find them, especially ones that stick. I think the main perspective to take is that you cannot control the actions of others, and if they are going to let themselves slide into a miserable, fat existence, then that is their choice and there is nothing you can do about it. To keep these people around only serves to keep around someone who is the opposition of everything you want in your life and that is unhelpful at best and actively detrimental at worst. I hate the term for the SJW associations, but fat people are "toxic" people and will drag you down, or will at least try to. You can only focus on making new friends and hope that they fill the gap you need in a permanent way.
[–] REEEperMan 0 points 5 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago
Ugh. Well, there was this guy, we weren't exactly in a relationship, but we were close. He started off fine, he was a bit socially awkward and not athletic, but he wasn't overweight.
Then at some point he started slacking off and not doing coursework, gaining weight, staying up at night to play computer games and not even showing up for class. We had a group project at the end of the year, he didn't do any of the work he was supposed to do and didn't show up for our presentation (didn't even bother to let us now he wasn't coming). We had a fight over text messages and that was that. Didn't see him over the summer, and next year he had to retake all the classes he'd failed so our schedules didn't cross.
I spotted him about a year later waddling home, a full-blown planet. Not exactly Boogie size, but that's the direction he was headed in. I haven't seen or heard from him in 3-4 years now, but I can't imagine he's actually gotten in better shape...
[–] callthehambulance [S] 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
That;s sad but you lucked out in letting him go from your life