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[–] CoolerThanAllOfYou 1 point 3 points (+4|-1) ago 

Yes. My ex husband. It started out with verbal/emotional abuse and it quickly became physical. He threw beer mugs at me, shoved me into walls, held me down, choked me several times, punched me...the list goes on. Why did I stay? Because I was so fucked up in the head, I thought he really did love me and really wanted to change and I took my marriage vows pretty seriously.

What made me leave? Well, I left for about 6 or 8 months and came back because he got and stayed sober. We dated again for a while and I moved back in. Things were great, better than ever. Then one morning, 6 months after we got back together, he didn't set his alarm and was late for work. He apparently did have enough time to hold me down in bed, choke me, and berate me...and as though the alarm was my fault. He was stone cold sober.

I told my best friend and she and another friend planned to have me move from California to Phoenix, Arizona to live with a third friend. I left 2 weeks later while he was at work and left him a letter.

Storybook time: one of the friends that helped me move, well, I had feelings for him for a really long time. That weekend I told him how I felt while drunk at a birthday get together. That was exactly 10 years ago today. This is our 10 year anniversary.

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[–] pfroo40 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

I'm glad to hear you had a happy ending. Your ex was fucked up and a shitty human being.

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[–] WesusJept ago 

Being straightforward yields good results most of the time. I wish more people were like that.

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[–] confusedkeylessentry 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

Don't know if this counts as abusive but I was in an on again/off again relationship with a SO that constantly cheated. The breaking point came when I realized that it wasn't my responsibility to prevent them from cheating (when they left the house), it was theirs.

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[–] ChiefBoringWater ago 

It wasn't abusive per say, but she was manipulative. I stayed because it was the first real relationship I had had in a while. I left when my brother finally explained to me what was happening and why it was bad.