[–] Sinned_Soul ago (edited ago)
If you knew how to fix yourself you wouldn't be subbed to /r/depression, that being said there are better ways to go about things. I also think even having this conversation isn't vital and is drawing attention away from the people this sub is dedicated to. I'm sure we will learn ways of amending things as time goes by but above all you must have patience and trust in the mods/people here.
[–] Rainy-Day-Dream 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
we shouldn't change it just because it's the same as reddit but you should really just pm the mod and talk it out
[–] butterboat 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
The bullying and abuse rule should stand as it. This is a depression subverse, shit like that could be that last straw to push someone over the edge.
I don't know how most people feel about hearing stuff such as "it gets better", but I am personally sick of hearing that. I don't feel like it really adds to discussion whatsoever.
The tough love rule I am not entirely sure about. It works for some and doesn't for others. I feel that tough love could fall into the "bullying or abuse" category for some, which may just make the person feel worse about themselves.
[–] fading_reality ago
"it gets better" in lot cases is interpreted "i don't really believe you" - in episodes of heavy depression sufferer (or not to generalise, i do) feel that there is no reasonable way, how could situation get better. in a way it totally negates my experience of world at the moment and my feelings about the experience, leading to feeling of alienation and unwillingness to continue talking.
this view is backed by research into depression and suicidology. on internet, there is no way for you to handle the case, if your "it gets better" backfires and sufferer feels alienated.
these rules are there for a reason and echoes in simplified way the guidelines of psychotherapists.
[–] little_raindrop 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
Hey @ClassyJacket. I have been meaning to talk to you about this, but I have been really busy and did not want to bullshit a quick reply and make you feel as though I am not hearing you out. I am. I understand how you are feeling and I know that this looks a lot like Reddit's rules. However, I am not a Reddit mod and do not intend to act like one by any means.
Anyone is welcome here. Say whatever you feel you want or need to get out. Like you said, as long as there are no threats being made to other people, I am happy to see discussions happening here. I want people to have a place to come and speak their mind.
Images and articles are fine as long as they do not target any person.
If you feel as though someone telling you it get's better is what you need, that is okay. Make a post about what is going on and state in it what you feel you need. Comments in that regard that pertain to a thread tat are wanted and warranted are not against the rules. The third rule is there so that there isn't a flood of posts that simply tell everyone that looks at this subverse that it get's better. This is a place for discussion and my hope is that a person that feels down does not visit and feel discouraged to post by seeing titles containing tough love or messages of what may be considered false hope.
Lastly, if you or anyone has any suggestions for rules, feel free to let me know. I am here to help you. This is not my community. It is ours.