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[–] CobraStallone 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Was going to say something similar, specially around High School age, a cool aloofness works better than earnest friendliness.
[–] JohnPaulJones 0 points 7 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago
Stick to the books. Generate interests and talents (read, learn to play an instrument, learn to code, or whatever interests you). If you have specific interests it'll be easier later in life to find people that share those interests. It's hard to have a sense of perspective but high school isn't that big of a deal. It's something everyone goes through and later in life you won't give it much thought if you have interests and goals to pursue.
[–] dirt-nap 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
I was at a bar back in my hometown when I was visiting family recently and I overheard one of the guys in there telling the bartender how he was a big deal back in high school. It took me a minute to realize who he was but when I figured it out I had to laugh. He was definitely with the in crowd in high school but now, 15 years later, he was just another drunk at the local bar. So I have to agree with this comment. Don't put too much weight in the people or status in high school. 4 years goes by quick and you have plenty of time to make much better friends in the future who share your same interests.
Yeah just try to find people that have the same interest as you . Back when i was in High School i join the Chess club and i found people to play Music with . People would harassing the people in the Chess Club but not when i was around by the time i was in High School i was 6'3 and 220 lbs and i look like a Viking i luck out . Remember High School goes by really fast so don't worry about the small stuff . Like i said find people with the same interest .
[–] lostpassword44 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
Be really glad that I avoided making friends with an asshole who would waste my time and wreck my life.
[–] Sosacms ago
Life is just one insanely complex random number generator. If things don't pan out, that's just the role of the dice and things didn't line up. Not everyone can gets along, you don't like some people and some people don't like you. It's just personal taste.
Instead look at it as doing you a favor. They are immediately giving you all the information you need to know you won't get along. No need to waste time on them and move on. Plenty of people out there and in the end being alone isn't that bad. I'm happier alone than most people are in long term relationships because I figured out how to fill that internal void while they are trying to fill it with random people.
Don't over think it or stress about it. Act naturally as you are, because you want to find people who like you not who you are pretending to be. I tend to just forget we are strangers and jump right into assuming at are long time friends. It's only a big deal if you make it a big deal.
[–] redpilledblackguy [S] 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Thanks. But you're not completely alone are you, any friends?
[–] Sosacms ago
Only my older brother. When I moved from Utah at 25 I realized I didn't have friends. Closest bonds I've ever felt but apparently only one felt them. Completely lost all interest in dating or friends after that and probably the happiest I've ever been.
I don't really have hard feelings towards them or my exes, they were just living life as they wanted. Can't fault them for choosing their own path to happiness instead of catering to mine. That's when I realized I was trying to fill that void with others instead of finding my own joy.
I'm not saying it's the best way, just my way.
But seeing how you are still in highschool, here are some ideas to consider. Get yourself in peak condition. Physically, financially, mentally, and emotionally. Present the best you you can be. The biggest changes come during the age of 25 and 30. Everyone is just trying to find their path just like you and those paths go in infinite directions, so just go along your path and be polite to any you run across on that path. Maybe you'll share some time together and maybe not, just enjoy it when you can and don't waste time going down a path you don't enjoy with someone a you don't like.