I led someone on so they wouldn't commit suicide. Every time I even hinted about leaving, he'd climb halfway out a window and threaten to just let go. I was planning to just stay until college, then drift apart... But he broke up with me before that and I ran.
Possibly. There was a girl at college who I think was at least interested in me. She latched onto the things she knew about me to create conversation with me at any available opportunity, smiled at me more than was usual, and tended to hang around places if I was in them, even if I was just waiting around doing nothing much. As I said, it was just a hunch, nothing definite. I don't know that I led her on, but I didn't address it or go out of my way to make myself seem less desirable, which I think may have been cruel to a person I thought of as an interesting acquaintance. She had good reason not to bring it up herself, as I was in a relationship at the time. It is what it is.
[–] C_IsForCookie 1 point 1 point 2 points (+2|-1) ago (edited ago)
I haven't, but I think it's relevant to mention that a girl once broke up with me after we "dated" for a week. I had no idea we were dating. Shit, I was confused when she broke up with me so I disregarded it completely (I was confused as to what she was talking about) until another friend mentioned to me that she said we dated and then the "break up" made a lot more sense.
[–] ThatOneArabGuy 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Sure I have, not because I didn't like them or because I wanted to hurt their feelings, quite the contrary actually. I would hate to offend or discourage them from making advances later in their life to other people.
Do I feel shiity about it? Definately. But it's instinctual at this point, and at least there's some positive benefits from me being a shit head
[–] Dumbtickles [S] 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Did they ever find out?
[–] ThatOneArabGuy ago
Find out that I'm just trying to be friendly? Hasn't happened yet. Normally what happens is either they fade away from my life or vice versa.
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[–] Dalmo 3 points 2 points 5 points (+5|-3) ago
You are just a shitty person dude. Eventually in your life you need to examine yourself and see what you really are. Just re read what you wrote here man. It doesn't matter if you give money to the church or you volunteer at the soup kitchen. What defines you is how you treat people that you don't have to treat well.
It's not her that brings something bad out in you. There is something shitty and bad about you.
I'm not trying to be a dick, but I think you really should examine yourself and your relationship. If you really don't care what happens to her then you need to leave her. Once she gets away from you for a while she will feel fine, and she will realize what a terrible influence you have had on her life.
You only get to live one time, and you are destroying the experience this woman is having. You are literally stealing part of her life away because you are selfish and childish.
You seriously need to re examine your life.
[–] Dumbtickles [S] 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
I'm not saying it's her fault. In no way I'm I saying that at all. No one deserves to be treated badly. But I don't think he's stealing any part of her. I think she's giving it away. He's made it abundantly clear to her what he thinks of her. And yet she continues. So is he a bad person for dealing out abuse. Maybe. Does she share the blame for willingly accepting that abuse. Maybe.