[–] Tex_Mex_Hex 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
When I was in my early twenties or so... I ended up making it something that permanently will never happen (children) from me, so when people say I'll change my mind now, I just smile like a shark and nod along.
[–] LizardBreathe 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
I am in my 30s and have been CF since high school. People will continue to tell you that you will change your mind until you have aged more.
The last time someone told me that I would change my mind, I laughed at them and told them I would have to do a lot of work in a short period of time, since I am not married (dating another CF person), so I would have to dump my boyfriend, find a new one, convince him to marry me, get married, and then get pregnant... no happening.
[–] Thapphireth ago
I couldn't pinpoint the time when I started thinking about my stance on having children (maybe 16?), but I'd say I've known all my life (or my adult life, like you). I don't remember a time where I thought that I wanted to have kids.
Sure, I do know the occasionally blip of biological urges acting up, but it's incredibly easy to have my rational mind win this internal 5-second debate.
When people used to tell me "you will change your mind when you are older" I desperately WANTED to believe them. The thought of having children has repulsed me ever since I was a child myself, but like many, I too thought that children were an inevitable fact of life; that was just what people do and nobody had told me otherwise.
My partner's sister recently had a child. She is of the the friendliest and most loving people I have ever met, and having a child tested her. It made me more comfortable with the fact that I will not have children, and my boyfriend finally understood. I don't have to make excuses any more, now that I have evidence to back up my preference not to have kids.
I was always the same with marriage, too. I didn't care about marriage, but it was framed as inevitable. My mother still laughs at my wedding plans as a child: "little wedding, big cake". Now I can just have the cake.
[–] chipskylark 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
The idea that I didn't NEED to have kids struck me around the age of 15/16. That's when I started to think, well, maybe this isn't for me. At 19 I started to travel and that only confirmed it for me. Now, at 22, I have the cutest kid to babysit and that has been the biggest confirmation for me so far. I like kids, I love working with them, but hell no I'm never going to be a mom. I'd be a shit mom. It's not for me. It doesn't suit my personality and life goals.