[–] LizardBreathe 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
I am in my 30s and have been CF since high school. People will continue to tell you that you will change your mind until you have aged more.
The last time someone told me that I would change my mind, I laughed at them and told them I would have to do a lot of work in a short period of time, since I am not married (dating another CF person), so I would have to dump my boyfriend, find a new one, convince him to marry me, get married, and then get pregnant... no happening.
[–] Towel_Frood_42 ago
I decided at the ripe old age of 5! I didn't like hanging out with other kids and couldn't wait to become an adult. My Mum used to take me to a play group and would try to set me up with activities with other kids. As soon as she turned her back I would be gone, inevitably she would find me drinking tea with the mums in the kitchen.
Lizardbreathe's comment about people telling you that you will change your mind as your age resonates with me. I am 39 and they are still telling me that I will want to in a few years. My mind is firmly made up and even if hypothetically it wasn't the risk of genetic defects are way too high at my age. I am as likely to change my mind as parents are to give away their kids.
My partner's mum was devastated when we told her she wasn't getting grandchildren from us. She said the dogs would have to be her grandchildren and started knitting them jackets! I found it embarrassing to go out in public with dogs that were wearing clothes so I found her a charity that needed jumpers knitted for penguins that had been caught in oil slicks.(It stops them ingesting oil, until they can be washed)
For me, about 6 months ago. Prior to that I wanted 2 before I was 30 (am currently 26). I have no desire for offspring at the moment. I am actually considering a vasectomy after banking some mini me's in a private facility in case I change my mind. If I do change my mind, I'll likely be a single father and opt for a surrogate mother. I have no interest in sharing the rest of my life with somebody.
I grew out of playing Mommy pretty early, I suppose. The first time I really recall thinking that kids were definitely not for me, though, was in a 7th grade biology class. Our teacher made us watch a Nova special on the "miracle" of childbirth and I just remember sitting there in horror as this woman pushed forth this giant baby from her vagina. I made a vow that I would never ever ever ever do that to myself. Couple that with my shit childhood and it's no wonder I'm happily childfree.
[–] Tex_Mex_Hex 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
When I was in my early twenties or so... I ended up making it something that permanently will never happen (children) from me, so when people say I'll change my mind now, I just smile like a shark and nod along.