[–] SUGARPEAS 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
I knew in elementary school. People kept asking me if I wanted to get married and have kids when I grew up. I said no to both. I'm 25 now and still feel the same. Once I start my new job and get my own insurance I'm going to try and get Essure or something so I don't have to deal with birth control anymore. Hopefully I can find a non-bigoted doctor to do it for me. :\
[–] heili 0 points 4 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago
I knew I didn't want kids when I was still one myself, around age five.
I didn't know it was possible to not have kids until I was a little older, so there were a few years there that I was really fucking depressed about the thought that babies were some unavoidable thing that just happened to you once you were an adult.
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[–] heili 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
What?
I never said there was no way to be complete or fully adult without children, or even that I had that impression. What I said was that when I was five and didn't understand how babies happen and the means to prevent them from happening I was depressed as fuck because I thought they were inevitable.
And then I learned how human reproduction works and that such a thing as birth control existed.
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[–] yeahrich 0 points 7 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago
So, this sub is great for you. You are not weird! There are lots of people like you.
These other people are speaking from their experience and who the hell are they to criticize you and your choices. I think it's foreign to them that you might not want children because they wanted them and cant relate. Then I think about how for the majority of people their biggest accomplishment in life is having a child. They put such importance on it and think you should too. I start to think that sometimes your choice to not have children threatens their very meaning of life.
I wasn't sure for most of my 20's now that I'm in my 30s I am 90% sure I do not want children. It does not take you to be or make you amazing to have a freaking baby. There are plenty of worthless people out there blindly humping and procreating.
Do you know why you do not want babies? For me it is the following top three reasons:
They cost a Ton of money and I cant afford it.
They cost a ton of time and I cannot afford it.
They likely have a horrible future ahead of them cleaning up the messes of our parents and us.
Please feel free to Add to my list cause there are just so many reasons not to just go out and bring another being into this already overpopulated world.
[–] Nermal 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
I was telling my family while I was still in my teens that I knew I didn't even want to consider it until my 30s. My go to response was, "ask me in 10 years" since everyone always said, "you'll change your mind when you're older."
I'm 33 now and my mind didn't change.