[–] C_IsForCookie ago (edited ago)
Trust your gut and have a calm logical discussion if you have anything on your mind. Stay away from accusations. Just ask questions and see where they lead you. If the person gets jumpy, there's probably a reason.
[–] lovedumplingx ago
This is one philosophy on the subject: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lgWgEoaAYDY
Probably not the greatest advice but I can see a few situations where it would work.
[–] usethemath [S] 1 point 0 points 1 point (+1|-1) ago
Also, what do you consider cheating?
[–] swfreak 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
It's a difficult question. You could say it's suspicious if they start acting differently, but that can be for a lot of reasons.
I agree with another poster there. If they want to cheat they will do it and it can be hard to detect.
Make sure you know what kind of person they are. If you involve yourself with and decide to trust the wrong kind of person, a person that lacks empathy and integrity, you will be burned.
[–] usethemath [S] ago
True, a number of reasons could cause changes in behavior. And as the other comment said, a cheater will cheat regardless.
[–] chakan2 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Did they cheat on their previous SO to get with you, then yes, they're cheating on you.
Those are usually signs of it...but cheater's typically have a past of cheating. If they do it once, you ARE NOT a special snow flake, they WILL do it again.
[–] TopShelfPrivilege 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
If you walk in on them having sex with someone that isn't you, there is a chance they are cheating on you.
[–] usethemath [S] 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
But can you prove it isn't you?
[–] WeekdayWarrior 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago (edited ago)
If there is someone in her family that you don't get along with, and she claims to be doing more and more stuff with that person. If it starts happening a lot more often, she's probably not at her sister's party, or having lunch with her sister. She's at her co-worker's party, and having lunch with him.
[–] usethemath [S] 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
That makes sense, if any questions arise as to why you were not invited it would easily be dismissed with a "You two don't get along very well so we'll avoid the possible drama."