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[–] DayShaun 0 points 15 points (+15|-0) ago 

You can casually bring it up when you two are alone. Let him know your are concerned for him. Ask if he's been feeling OK. I think that might be a wake up call he needs. If you take the more negative approach of criticizing him, he may just get offended and end up getting defensive. Start friendly, and if he ignores that then take the more direct and aggressive route. Say, "You're going to end up looking like _____(fat family member) if you don't fix this now."

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[–] WileyECryote 0 points 11 points (+11|-0) ago 

This. And ask him if he remembers how good he used to feel when he was in shape. I certainly remember how bad I felt when I was out of shape.

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[–] proteinfordays 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

Oh yeah. I guess the point is, try to make your concern obvious while not openly shitlording. Act like the only concerns you have are his health risks.

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[–] FatShamingShitLady 0 points 8 points (+8|-0) ago 

Tell him you need to speak with him. Do it alone and never bring it up in front of the other family as they will jump to his defence. Show him the photos. Tell him you are worried about him. Tell him you want your niece/nephew to have a strong healthy father that they can run around and play with. The kid is so young and is going to be so full of energy and need a good role model in their life. Doesn't dad want to play catch? Doesn't he want to teach is kid how to play soccer, or take them on adventures? Doesn't he want his kid to have a health role model so that they can have a healthy future? Tell him he seemed happier when he was fit and that you are worried that he will leave things too late and only realize he is making a mistake when he is obese and that changes should be made as soon as possible because once he is fat it would be unlikely that he would shed the pounds.

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[–] Cerryo 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago  (edited ago)

Use the kid. If he's using the kid as an excuse then use it back. Two angles: He needs to be physically able to do things with and for the kid; and he is in a good position to give the kid a better experience than he had (in this regard at least). You and he grew up (it sounds like?) with people constantly showing you that fat adults are normal, but his kid has a chance at something different. Maybe that would mean something to him, if it were pointed out?

Also there's the fact that eating less takes no time. This could be an important thing to emphasize, if he uses the argument that his family and job or whatever are giving him too little time to take care of himself in an ideal way. Muscles may eat time, but thinness at least does not!

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[–] theepilepticferret ago 

I'm just curious, is his wife fat? Did she get fat after having the kid? She might be trying to bring him down to her level because she is upset about her own weight gain, and although she doesn't want to do anything to improve herself, could be hellbent on bringing your brother down to her level so he can't run off with some skinny shitlady mistress. It's a shitty way to conduct a marriage, but it happens.

The best thing would probably be to do as others have suggested and speak to your brother alone. I almost never say this, but use his kid as the pawn. Remind your brother that he needs to be there for your niece/nephew, that if he wants to be around to watch his child and then his grandchildren grow up, he needs to stay fit and healthy. If you say the rest of your family are obeasts, maybe remind him of what it was like growing up with obese parent(s) who didn't want to play with you, couldn't keep up with you, always said no to you, etc. Show him the scientific proof that fat = bad. Don't shitlord directly to start, let the evidence do the talking.

If all else fails, then shitlord the fuck outta him.

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[–] Theseu5 ago 

sorry but i say the only thing that would make a person like that change is a heart attack