[–] CryogenicWaffles0 0 points 5 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago
Lol being 5'9" has nothing to do with it. Girls don't want to date ugly profemiminist males.
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[–] openly_gay_neocon 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
You're telling me that's women don't want a small, weak, male feminist, who's in touch with his feelings and is a cuck.
Doesn't stop them from raising cucks, then wondering why they don't have any grandchildren
[–] ThisIsWhoWeR 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
Let me guess without looking:
Various posters claiming they get laid all the time using the apps, including some pretty wild sexual exploits
Many more posters who have had limited to no success using them
Someone offended by something related to the sites/apps
A token female or two discussing their experiences to the delight of thirsty losers
[–] Xennios 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Met gf on tinder and she said she would've swiped me right if I had an American flag in my profile, lol. Women swipe based on the most arbitrary things. Tinder is just the natural result of dating + technological (often faux) efficiency. Women have all the choice, it's crazy.
[–] [deleted] 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Tinder is destroying mens self-esteem (New York Post) - NeoGAF
'When it came to gender, male Tinder users reported lower self-esteem than females. '
'A new survey at the University of North Texas found that singles who used Tinder are more likely to have lower self-esteem and feel unhappy about their looks than non-dating-app users. '
'When Ben Ellman, 26, moved to NYC in 2015 and fired up his Tinder and OkCupid profiles, he was expecting to meet a bevy of compatible women. '
'Instead, the 5-foot-9 journalist was swiped left by matches because of his height — or lack thereof. “It seems like all the women online were going for guys 6-foot-1 and above,” Ellman, who lives in Williamsburg, Brooklyn, tells The Post. '
' The study’s co-author, Jessica Strubel, says this gender imbalance could be due to a numbers game. “We don’t know causality of these results, but one possible factor is that there are more male Tinder users than female Tinder users,” Strubel, an assistant professor at the university, tells The Post. “Men also swipe right more than women, so they face rejection more often, which could affect their self-esteem.”'
[–] ThisIsWhoWeR 0 points 6 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago (edited ago)
This is dating: men approach women and strike out a lot. (Unless they have an advantage like power, fame, or money.) And they strike out until they find a chick who is interested. Women let men approach them, and they reject most of the time. (Unless something is wrong with them.) They're choosy.
Tinder is probably short-changing a lot of people. People you would find yourself attracted to if you met them in real life. But that's online dating. All online dating is like that. You could be a great catch and have a bad profile. Or an attractive person with a bad photo. Or a guy someone would really get along with, but your profile highlights a small point she doesn't like, and so she doesn't even get a chance to decide to overlook it for the rest of you. Because she's ordering the perfect boyfriend from a menu, and nobody is perfect.
But dating sites also skip all the other parts of approaching a potential mate and getting shot down. It's actually saving you time. All Tinder is doing is streamlining the process of acceptance and rejection.
I don't know if something like Tinder is good for society. I suspect it isn't. Rejection is something you, as a man especially, have to learn to get over and not take too seriously or personally, and you shouldn't have an app that removes the friction from that process. Because you end up being devastated by every rejection, even online, and never learning the hard and only way. These men with lower self esteem because of constant rejection, I get it. Rejection sucks, and online dating can be pretty depressing. But how many of these guys are actually dating outside or approaching women outside of the app? Because rejection stops stinging after it happens a few times, and learning not to care about it actually makes you more attractive to women.
[–] Perron 0 points 4 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago (edited ago)
It's funny how a "shitlord" like you can give a more honest and constructive advise than the supposedly open-minded and empathetic progressives of Neogaf. Compare your post to this shit stain. You can tell he wanted to tell some of the guys there to go and kill themselves again.
[–] openly_gay_neocon 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
I've only got 2 dates from approaching and something like 10 from online, and the only reason I got anything from approaching was because a friend was talking me up. Now that I'm in another state I'm just getting shot down or getting fake phone numbers. I look like a skeleton but getting shot down by fat chicks really sucks, fuck fat acceptance
[–] ThisIsWhoWeR ago
I don't want to come across like I'm too down on online dating. I've done it before. It's a good way to meet people, and meeting dates through online sites seems to be gaining in popularly. And guys can learn the same important lessons about dealing with rejection through the online dating process. I was just saying this thing where the process is nearly automated seems like it might have unintended social consequences. I could be wrong.
I hear you, though. You're probably running into millennial narcissism. I don't want to be mean (in this instance), but dumpy chicks with incredibly high standards are ridiculous. But I've seen it myself. Every woman under 30 seems to think she's entitled to date only Hollywood model CEOs who travel to Europe for a living. I'm sure the guys are no better.
Online (and regular) dating is much easier in big cities than in smaller ones, but it's still hard. Persistence is the key. You just gotta cast a reasonably wide net, write actual messages to women you find interesting (because they all think they're special snowflakes, even though most won't even partially match your show of effort by responding at all), and make a decent profile.
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