[–] Tat_Tvam_Asi 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
There is this obstacle course and your job is to help your child navigate it. There are many methods that have been used for thousands of years. The most common method involves you striking your child, who is physically unable to stop the assault, when you feel they have crossed the line. There is another method that is not used as much that does not include striking your child despite them crossing a line.
Each child is different due to environment. Assuming the child has no birth defects. You can see this when your child is born and with all the other babies. They all act the same. Mom and dad (environment) alter the child's path in ways they don't know. This is where we get "monkey see monkey do" in reference to kids. They mimic. If a child acts like an ass, it is because the child's environment is an ass.
If there is real love, the parent will attempt the method of not spanking their child. Real love will force the parent to view each interaction from the perspective of love. When that happens, the parent will see kids are only trying to learn and love back. Unless they have been corrupted. Then there is little most can do but spank their children. This is where I say the are uneducated. It's not an insult. it just is how it is.
There is a ton of research on the subject.
[–] SocratesOP ago (edited ago)
Yeah I think I read the study that said all parents who spank are uneducated and don't love their kids.
Joking aside, it seems like you feel when a child is spanked, the parents don't communicate with them. When spanking kids there is an opportunity to explain why they had to do what they had to do. The real world has physical consequences, you can't say/do anything you want and expect to be immune to reactions. Learning this early at home in a safe environment has numerous benefits over waiting and letting the world teach this lesson in my opinion
[–] Tat_Tvam_Asi ago
It is my opinion that the spankings are not needed if the parenting is done out of love each time, all the time. Children that never got spanked grow up to be the best in the areas of study the go to. Not to mention how hard it is to offend one or take advantage of them.