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[–] vandilx ago 

No. As long as the wife puts out reasonably regularly, I'm good.

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[–] Goatinsheepsclothing ago 

RedSocks is right. I was never cool in high school and never went hooking up with random girls every week like the media and society say I should have. The hookups I have had pale in comparison to the sex I've had with girls I'm actually interested in. Sex for the sake of sex really is not that satisfying. I had the same feeling of wanting some sort of validation by proving to myself I could get girls like anyone else could. RedSocks was right in saying you should find a passion and work towards it. I've come to find the best way to solve some problems is to stop worrying about them. I stopped worrying about hookups and relationships, put time into bettering myself with a college and whatnot, and now I'm dating my childhood best friend who made that feeling of inadequacy disappear. Its better to be everything to one person than hardly a memory to everyone else.

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[–] RedSocks157 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

I think what you're really experiencing here is a feeling that you missed out, and the feeling mostly centers around women because that's one of the ways that we as men compare ourselves - if we're doing good with women we must be awesome right?

I would give you this advice. First of all, it's better to hook up with one gorgeous, interesting woman than a bunch of bar sluts. Women give it away a lot easier now than they used to so in my honest opinion, sleeping with a ton of them really isn't a huge accomplishment. Meeting and sleeping with one who's actually worthwhile is a lot harder to do. Second, it could be that you just need to find a new focus. A passion. A life goal. Something totally unrelated to women that makes you want to get up every day and bust your ass for it. The truth is that having a dream and working tirelessly towards it every day is probably the best thing a man can do for all aspects of his life. Personal example, my social life improved immensely when I deleted Tinder, stopped trying so damn hard, and spent more time working on my coaching.

I can relate to how you feel. I was never "cool" in the high school sense of the word. I always used to feel like I should be, I was an athlete and smart and all that shit - but I still felt terrible about myself because I was never "cool". One day I realized that I have done, and continue to do, some pretty fucking cool shit. Yeah, they got girls in high school and college. I'm getting a master's degree and do triathlons. Stop treating the concept of "cool" like some kind of objective measuring stick of your life, whether it means getting women or being captain of the football team or whatever else. You missed out on hooking up with tons of subpar girls, they missed out on all the awesome shit you're getting done every day. Don't measure your life's success, in women or anything else, by someone else's standards. Write your own rules!

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[–] barset 1 point -1 points (+0|-1) ago 

I dunno. I was semi cool in HS. I was that guy who hung out with the graduated classes and carried my guitar to school and got away with leaving school to pick up lunch for me and a teacher or if I just needed to run home and take a shit.

But damned if I won't want to bed as many attractive chicks as possible. I've ended some solid stable relationships over it and even cheated once and don't even regret it because the sex was amazing.

I wish I could feel full filled in this, but again I'm seemingly damned to desire getting some strange and I'm in my 30s now.